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New Leaf and Copa, this is how I feel about both of you. Your strength and wisdom have carried over to me so many times and enabled me to continue and not fall into despair or believing the lie that if I just did one more thing it would change things. Copa, I'm so sorry you had to see your...

Oh my goodness! I have been trying to get back on the site for weeks! And I just tried again, not expecting to be able to get on, and it worked! What has been going on? I have missed all of you as well, and I hope the site can continue somehow. I was so sad to think I would not be able to...

Copa, I believe that it's true--apart from God's intervention in their lives, or in anyone's life, there will be no real transformation. We can grit our teeth and buck ourselves up, but we can only change the surface. God has to change the core of our being. Anyway, as I was reading your post...

Hey Copa, Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you. For several days, I was not able to get on the website. I kept being directed to some weird page that implied there was something not working. Anyway, here I am. As usual, you have such good insights. I like what you said about how...

Thank you for sharing that. Five years is a long time in a child's life. I think many personality traits are set in place by then, especially in the midst of trauma. I'm sorry for what you are going through. As an adoptive parent, I didn't realize how traumatizing it is for a child to be...

You may have mentioned this previously, but I just re-read your profile information and noticed that your daughter is adopted. May I ask how old she was when you brought her home? Our son was 4 months old. Young enough that it never occurred to me that he might still be affected by trauma. I was...

Thank you. I do keep myself very busy, and recently, I started volunteering with a homeless shelter near me. If I can't help my son, I can at least try to help other people. I try not to think about all the days, weeks, months, and years ahead and what those may hold for us. The hardest time...

I know that is true. It's just hard when you can't see anything happening on your end. It's hard to admit to myself that I've reached a point where I can't do anything more until God moves Josh's heart to reach out for help. I've posted about our situation on FB and then followed it up with a...

Thank you for your prayers and for saying what you did about doing more than most people. I wish there was more I could do. When I'm doing something, it makes me feel some sense of hope. If I'm not, then it's hard to have hope.

Mousyone, I'm so sorry. You and your family have been through it, and of course you are heartbroken. It is nothing other than heartbreaking to see the breakdown of our child. But I too have to agree with what others have said. Bailing him out is not going to help him in any way, and it's going...

Copa, Thanks for saying that. I guess I just meant that sometimes I don't know how to best word things such as the potential follow up FB post. By the way, I just took what you suggested and made a post of it on the FB sites I had posted previously. Thanks again for your help in figuring just...

I like that. Thank you. Sometimes I don't know how to articulate what I feel.

I need God's peace right now. I'm asking Him to show me what I'm supposed to do--keep trying, or wait and pray, or...?

That's my prayer too. I don't understand the willingness to live as he does, as many like him, do.

Copa, Thank you for your thoughts. What you said about continuing to engage with people who have been helpful is what I've been thinking about, just haven't been sure how to go about it. I still have each text and FB message from most of those who commented. I just haven't been able to figure...

LMS Thank you for your thoughts and words. I'm praying. Always.

Newstart, Thank you for your kind, compassionate words and prayers. Yes, you are right on both counts: It was a blessing to be able to communicate to him during that brief phone conversation that we want to help and are here and we love him. I needed to know that he knows that, or it would have...

So, it's been almost three weeks since we talked briefly with Josh, after he was recognized by someone who saw my FB posts and gave him her phone. Despite our asking that he meet with us, he would not agree to do that or tell us where we could find him. He said he would call that night or the...

I too have the same emotions--I want to talk to Josh but it's such an unpleasant experience and brings into stark contrast how he is now versus the past. I can relate to how you felt at seeing your daughter's mugshot.

Dad, I'm sorry to hear you've been struggling with the grief of being estranged from your daughter. Is it your fault? Is it her addictions? Well, who knows. Josh goes to the main library in Phoenix, where they have a cooling center, almost every day from what I understand. He could easily...