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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 760381" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>That's fine. you and I did what we thought would help. For us we found a time to say no more. It took a decade but we did it.</p><p></p><p>Interestingly , our daughter and her husband are surviving, not thriving, without us, but they did what we begged them to do in the past and they would never act upon. </p><p></p><p>Kay (,Lee too) is on Disability, which she refused to explore as long as we rescued her. With Disability she gets Medicare and their low income qualifies them for Medicaid as well plus a food card. At least she has these resources. I am relieved.</p><p></p><p>If Lee and Kay get sick of living in a dodgy camper they qualify for Section 8 too. I never thought these things would bring me joy but it's a weight off my shoulders.</p><p></p><p>I can't control Kay and how she insists on living PLUS I could not buy her love, which I think we both tried to do as she rejected us unless we offered her money and other things. We wanted her to love us the way we loved her and by rescuing her we thought she would love us. It was a mess, really. It just made her entitled and yes meaner.</p><p></p><p>Eventually we admitted to ourselves that the only time she contacted us was to ask for favors. And boy did she let us have it if we said no.</p><p></p><p>It was very hard but we are on the way up. Very much we are.</p><p></p><p>Prayers to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 760381, member: 23706"] That's fine. you and I did what we thought would help. For us we found a time to say no more. It took a decade but we did it. Interestingly , our daughter and her husband are surviving, not thriving, without us, but they did what we begged them to do in the past and they would never act upon. Kay (,Lee too) is on Disability, which she refused to explore as long as we rescued her. With Disability she gets Medicare and their low income qualifies them for Medicaid as well plus a food card. At least she has these resources. I am relieved. If Lee and Kay get sick of living in a dodgy camper they qualify for Section 8 too. I never thought these things would bring me joy but it's a weight off my shoulders. I can't control Kay and how she insists on living PLUS I could not buy her love, which I think we both tried to do as she rejected us unless we offered her money and other things. We wanted her to love us the way we loved her and by rescuing her we thought she would love us. It was a mess, really. It just made her entitled and yes meaner. Eventually we admitted to ourselves that the only time she contacted us was to ask for favors. And boy did she let us have it if we said no. It was very hard but we are on the way up. Very much we are. Prayers to you. [/QUOTE]
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