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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 733370" data-attributes="member: 13303">Hi there,Wow, you have a lot on your plate and you are definitely in the right place. Unfortunately it sounds like your daughter will not be successful living at home and there is no way from what you write that she is ready to live independently. She is correct, she is a legal adult at 18 years of age regardless of her emotional condition. She does indeed have rights and you can not force her to do anything. At the same time, since she is a legal adult, you can evict her from your home and allow her to fend for herself. It goes both ways. The question is whether or not you are ready to take this step. You can help her apply for adult services if you wish. If she is still in high school and has an IEP I would contact her case manager and request that they coordinate a meeting with the department of rehabilitative services in your area, they will evaluate her and hopefully help identify a group home/transitional living setting for her as it is clear she really cannot manage daily routines independently. Best case scenario is this step would have been taken at minimum last year, but sometimes for whatever reason things do not proceed on time.With her history she should apply for SSI disability payments based on her mental illness. I am sorry she has not responded to treatment. She is who she is and you cannot change her, the only thing you can change is your response to her behavior.Best of luck and please stick around.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 733370, member: 13303"] Hi there, Wow, you have a lot on your plate and you are definitely in the right place. Unfortunately it sounds like your daughter will not be successful living at home and there is no way from what you write that she is ready to live independently. She is correct, she is a legal adult at 18 years of age regardless of her emotional condition. She does indeed have rights and you can not force her to do anything. At the same time, since she is a legal adult, you can evict her from your home and allow her to fend for herself. It goes both ways. The question is whether or not you are ready to take this step. You can help her apply for adult services if you wish. If she is still in high school and has an IEP I would contact her case manager and request that they coordinate a meeting with the department of rehabilitative services in your area, they will evaluate her and hopefully help identify a group home/transitional living setting for her as it is clear she really cannot manage daily routines independently. Best case scenario is this step would have been taken at minimum last year, but sometimes for whatever reason things do not proceed on time. With her history she should apply for SSI disability payments based on her mental illness. I am sorry she has not responded to treatment. She is who she is and you cannot change her, the only thing you can change is your response to her behavior. Best of luck and please stick around. [/QUOTE]

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