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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 752877" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>This post by Copa was so on point for me .We do think that it will be easier when we "understand" , and it is important to realize that we cannot understand everyone, especially when we are dealing with people with mental health issues. We look at the other person through our own eyes and to us their behavior doesnt make sense . It is futile to try to understand, and instead, it is more helpful to come to accept . My serenity is exactly proportionate to my level of acceptance. </p><p></p><p>Having a child reject you has got to be the most excrutiatingly painful experience. I am so terribly sorry you are going through this .</p><p></p><p>In Al-Anon I have heard that I speak with child A about child A, and with child B about child B. I am not perfect with this, but I do try to not get information out of my daughter about my son and vice versa. My daughter has often betrayed her brother's confidences and when she does, I do want to know (because he keeps a lot from me) but I do not prey. I don't ask leading questions . I trust my Higher Power, God , will reveal to me what I need to know. </p><p></p><p>Therefore, I would not ask my other kids to defend me or say anything about me. I would leave it alone . </p><p></p><p>What I would do is to send my daughter love and light every time I think of her. I would pray for her. I would make sure that I pray for forgiveness and to have my resentments released (you do that by praying for the person who has hurt us to be blessed with everything you want for yourself every day until you feel neutral about them) - not for them, but so I can be free. I would also , in prayer, lay my relationship with my daughter on God's altar .</p><p></p><p>This is hard , spiritual work. And the rewards are vast. I have learned that if I want to feel better, I have to work on me. I have to get comfortable with getting uncomfortable if I want to grow . </p><p></p><p>Sending love to you and your family!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 752877, member: 24254"] This post by Copa was so on point for me .We do think that it will be easier when we "understand" , and it is important to realize that we cannot understand everyone, especially when we are dealing with people with mental health issues. We look at the other person through our own eyes and to us their behavior doesnt make sense . It is futile to try to understand, and instead, it is more helpful to come to accept . My serenity is exactly proportionate to my level of acceptance. Having a child reject you has got to be the most excrutiatingly painful experience. I am so terribly sorry you are going through this . In Al-Anon I have heard that I speak with child A about child A, and with child B about child B. I am not perfect with this, but I do try to not get information out of my daughter about my son and vice versa. My daughter has often betrayed her brother's confidences and when she does, I do want to know (because he keeps a lot from me) but I do not prey. I don't ask leading questions . I trust my Higher Power, God , will reveal to me what I need to know. Therefore, I would not ask my other kids to defend me or say anything about me. I would leave it alone . What I would do is to send my daughter love and light every time I think of her. I would pray for her. I would make sure that I pray for forgiveness and to have my resentments released (you do that by praying for the person who has hurt us to be blessed with everything you want for yourself every day until you feel neutral about them) - not for them, but so I can be free. I would also , in prayer, lay my relationship with my daughter on God's altar . This is hard , spiritual work. And the rewards are vast. I have learned that if I want to feel better, I have to work on me. I have to get comfortable with getting uncomfortable if I want to grow . Sending love to you and your family! [/QUOTE]
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