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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752879" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Wise, we are on the same page!!!</p><p></p><p>Nothing can explain why. It doesn't help to ruminate over why. I think often it is about the rejecting or angry child, not us. We may be a stomping ground for their anger. This is unhealthy for us, for us to allow abuse, and for them to be given a pass for doing it. To me not accepting this is more important than why. Boundaries. Unwillingness to put our feet down on any abuse for any reason. Abuse and Serenity can not coexist.</p><p></p><p>I have been practicing mindful acceptance for a while now. Nothing has positively impacted my life more than this. Nothing. If WE want to stop being half crazy it really helps to accept what is NOW and NOT focus on the past or future. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday is history,</p><p>Tomorrow is a mystery.</p><p>All we have is today.</p><p></p><p>Those who live in either the past or the future or both are doomed to being unhappy. Yes, our past family life could have been less than great, but that is gone/done/over and we CAN learn to heal and let go. And writing horrific or wildly hopeful stories about the future in our minds is fiction and can keep us from NOW. Helps no one. They are fiction.</p><p></p><p>Any twelve step program from Codapendenents Anonamyous to Families Anonamyous to Al Anon or Nar Anon help us focus on what is now. Now. I think everyone benefits from acceptance.</p><p></p><p>It is easier to deal with NOW if Past and Future don't cloud your reality.</p><p></p><p>I love Radical Acceptance. It is so helpful to my husband and me. You may like it too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752879, member: 23706"] Wise, we are on the same page!!! Nothing can explain why. It doesn't help to ruminate over why. I think often it is about the rejecting or angry child, not us. We may be a stomping ground for their anger. This is unhealthy for us, for us to allow abuse, and for them to be given a pass for doing it. To me not accepting this is more important than why. Boundaries. Unwillingness to put our feet down on any abuse for any reason. Abuse and Serenity can not coexist. I have been practicing mindful acceptance for a while now. Nothing has positively impacted my life more than this. Nothing. If WE want to stop being half crazy it really helps to accept what is NOW and NOT focus on the past or future. Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery. All we have is today. Those who live in either the past or the future or both are doomed to being unhappy. Yes, our past family life could have been less than great, but that is gone/done/over and we CAN learn to heal and let go. And writing horrific or wildly hopeful stories about the future in our minds is fiction and can keep us from NOW. Helps no one. They are fiction. Any twelve step program from Codapendenents Anonamyous to Families Anonamyous to Al Anon or Nar Anon help us focus on what is now. Now. I think everyone benefits from acceptance. It is easier to deal with NOW if Past and Future don't cloud your reality. I love Radical Acceptance. It is so helpful to my husband and me. You may like it too. [/QUOTE]
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