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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 752899" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>I am going to throw my opinion into the ring for whatever it is worth. </p><p></p><p>While you have been rejected and you are hurting very much, I think I would focus on myself and work on releasing my resentment and find forgiveness, not for daughter, but for me. So I am free of all of that. </p><p></p><p>I would tell my daughter who asks me to babysit that I can not only handle but prefer the truth. Babysitting is an opportunity that be with the grands , to be of true help to daughter, and to spread love . To me, it's not a black and white situation: there is lots of grey in there that can be explored if you so chose . I would also ask my daughter why she felt the need to lie to me. Chances are she is not wanting to hurt your feelings and doesn't realize that lying is worse for you.</p><p></p><p>I would want to seek to forgive rather than to be forgiven. I would seek to love rather than to be loved. I would not fight fire with fire but come from love. This does not mean I have to have a relationship with the difficult daughter or be a door mat. I would want to free myself from the drama for me, so that the power the difficult daughter is trying to yield over my life and my extended family falls away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 752899, member: 24254"] I am going to throw my opinion into the ring for whatever it is worth. While you have been rejected and you are hurting very much, I think I would focus on myself and work on releasing my resentment and find forgiveness, not for daughter, but for me. So I am free of all of that. I would tell my daughter who asks me to babysit that I can not only handle but prefer the truth. Babysitting is an opportunity that be with the grands , to be of true help to daughter, and to spread love . To me, it's not a black and white situation: there is lots of grey in there that can be explored if you so chose . I would also ask my daughter why she felt the need to lie to me. Chances are she is not wanting to hurt your feelings and doesn't realize that lying is worse for you. I would want to seek to forgive rather than to be forgiven. I would seek to love rather than to be loved. I would not fight fire with fire but come from love. This does not mean I have to have a relationship with the difficult daughter or be a door mat. I would want to free myself from the drama for me, so that the power the difficult daughter is trying to yield over my life and my extended family falls away. [/QUOTE]
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