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Has anyone felt totally judged by a child therapist?
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<blockquote data-quote="PiscesMom" data-source="post: 718827" data-attributes="member: 19889"><p>Thanks. But I won't. I can't.</p><p></p><p>She stays in her room a lot. She has bad anxiety and social anxiety.</p><p></p><p> Two years ago, we had a therapist thru the county, that was nice. She sometimes found us free things to do, good ideas for outings w my daughter. We were new in town, so it was really great. Then, she went on long term medical leave, and my daughter was assigned a new one. My daughter glared at her at the first appointment, headphones on her ears. If you knew her, you would know that is just what she does when she is frightened. She is very very fragile. And obstinate. And extremely anxious and sensitive. Her new assigned therapist said she was a "narcissist" - after seeing her for like two minutes. She was so mean. She told me her ex was also a "narcissist" and showed me pictures of him.</p><p></p><p>After that, her old therapist came back, but now she gave me a funny look, and told me I was unable to connect emotionally with my daughter. She sternly told my daughter not to wear headphones. Or draw.</p><p></p><p>I still took my daughter to her again, because I wanted her to have her medications. I wanted her to be functional. Then I changed therapists, this time to a man, in the same practice. He wasn't mean and judgmental, but he had a superior attitude. He insisted my daughter's issue was defiance, not anxiety.</p><p></p><p>This is not what her psychiatrist and school teacher thought. They understood her, and never took her fear personally.</p><p></p><p>I quit the practice. So she can no longer see the psychiatrist that knew her, though she was great, thought I was a good, responsive mother to her. And honestly, I don't think the medications were quite right.</p><p></p><p>So we went to a psychiatrist who I didn't know. He prescribed the prozac, plus Risperdal, which I was afraid to give her. He didn't see me as a pathological disaster or whatever, or her as a brat. He saw her as someone with runaway anxiety. But I didn't go back because I was afraid to give her Risperdal.</p><p></p><p>And now this. A cutting insult from this lady. She is like the intake supervisor for a large practice for children on medicaid. She was very withering, very contemptuous when I tried to tell her what we needed. She won't let my daughter see a therapist who will promise to only play games with her, not make her do "therapy" which is a big trigger for her now.</p><p></p><p>I have to give up. My daughter and I can't go thru this anymore. I cried, and my daughter said Remember this, mom, remember how mean these people are.</p><p></p><p>She doesn't want another therapist.</p><p></p><p>I am not sure what my mistake has been, what I could have done differently. Maybe just NOT bringing her to therapists, when she understands they don't understand her, and are not helping her.</p><p></p><p>Honestly, I hate myself for putting her thru all this.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday, we drove to her school to drop off homework I had picked up for her. She is too afraid to go to the school building. It is a therapy school, full of other anxious kids. Two teachers came up to the car, and chatted with her a little bit. She told me last night, as I cried, that she was feeling better about going to school cuz the teachers seemed so nice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PiscesMom, post: 718827, member: 19889"] Thanks. But I won't. I can't. She stays in her room a lot. She has bad anxiety and social anxiety. Two years ago, we had a therapist thru the county, that was nice. She sometimes found us free things to do, good ideas for outings w my daughter. We were new in town, so it was really great. Then, she went on long term medical leave, and my daughter was assigned a new one. My daughter glared at her at the first appointment, headphones on her ears. If you knew her, you would know that is just what she does when she is frightened. She is very very fragile. And obstinate. And extremely anxious and sensitive. Her new assigned therapist said she was a "narcissist" - after seeing her for like two minutes. She was so mean. She told me her ex was also a "narcissist" and showed me pictures of him. After that, her old therapist came back, but now she gave me a funny look, and told me I was unable to connect emotionally with my daughter. She sternly told my daughter not to wear headphones. Or draw. I still took my daughter to her again, because I wanted her to have her medications. I wanted her to be functional. Then I changed therapists, this time to a man, in the same practice. He wasn't mean and judgmental, but he had a superior attitude. He insisted my daughter's issue was defiance, not anxiety. This is not what her psychiatrist and school teacher thought. They understood her, and never took her fear personally. I quit the practice. So she can no longer see the psychiatrist that knew her, though she was great, thought I was a good, responsive mother to her. And honestly, I don't think the medications were quite right. So we went to a psychiatrist who I didn't know. He prescribed the prozac, plus Risperdal, which I was afraid to give her. He didn't see me as a pathological disaster or whatever, or her as a brat. He saw her as someone with runaway anxiety. But I didn't go back because I was afraid to give her Risperdal. And now this. A cutting insult from this lady. She is like the intake supervisor for a large practice for children on medicaid. She was very withering, very contemptuous when I tried to tell her what we needed. She won't let my daughter see a therapist who will promise to only play games with her, not make her do "therapy" which is a big trigger for her now. I have to give up. My daughter and I can't go thru this anymore. I cried, and my daughter said Remember this, mom, remember how mean these people are. She doesn't want another therapist. I am not sure what my mistake has been, what I could have done differently. Maybe just NOT bringing her to therapists, when she understands they don't understand her, and are not helping her. Honestly, I hate myself for putting her thru all this. Yesterday, we drove to her school to drop off homework I had picked up for her. She is too afraid to go to the school building. It is a therapy school, full of other anxious kids. Two teachers came up to the car, and chatted with her a little bit. She told me last night, as I cried, that she was feeling better about going to school cuz the teachers seemed so nice. [/QUOTE]
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