So, it's been a while. Son is still with his dad. Permanently. Have not gone to court yet, child support will send us there.
1) Because I couldn't physically drag a kicking screaming teen to appointments and school I'll never get him back. Been almost a year.
2) Son says hes doing little better but needed to see what he /all of us did and future hope's for all, I agree.
3) He says he wants to come home for a school year and back to his dads the next school year. I'm ok with that, but dad said no. Cuz he feel I'm no good cuz I couldn't get him to appointments and school. I see that. I agree. Son also takes blame, father takes none where he all of sudden wanted to play father. But last time I didnt want to call cops on him. But guess what? IF that happened again, you bet your behind they will be on speed dial. I'm not afraid of how he would feel. I hate I didnt call them before to drag him. Mentally dragging a person like that is harmful. But now , I see , Its just as bad , worse actually I didnt. I know how me being dragged was.
4) I know in my heart and what we have talked about it wont ever get to that. No matter who he is with. Is all perfect? No, of course not. But I want him back for this last year before he is with his dad the next and he will move on his own he says. Son says he does want to come home and try it this school year. Especially as I mentioned sons plans.
It's about my kids, about their happiness and health. But I miss him and dont like not being in his life. My ex in some ways helped him but the fear if the belt and fun of the alcohol is still issues there. Theres some other issues I wont mention. Hes on the defensive about his dad..excuses him for things.
Its a lose -lose situation. If I get upset or cry too much, I'm not of sound mind. His dad gets angry,its fine. I show no emotion as his dad basically wants and theres something wrong with me. Both my kids DO have a mental illness. My mom, her mom other family various mental issues. His dad and other family on his side violent, and other issues with no dr proof as they deny it. He blames me saying they are fine and it's my fault completely. I'm willing always have been for family therapy as dad says no. It's all my fault.
Had to vent I'm sorry. Some days are harder than others. It hurts.
1) Because I couldn't physically drag a kicking screaming teen to appointments and school I'll never get him back. Been almost a year.
2) Son says hes doing little better but needed to see what he /all of us did and future hope's for all, I agree.
3) He says he wants to come home for a school year and back to his dads the next school year. I'm ok with that, but dad said no. Cuz he feel I'm no good cuz I couldn't get him to appointments and school. I see that. I agree. Son also takes blame, father takes none where he all of sudden wanted to play father. But last time I didnt want to call cops on him. But guess what? IF that happened again, you bet your behind they will be on speed dial. I'm not afraid of how he would feel. I hate I didnt call them before to drag him. Mentally dragging a person like that is harmful. But now , I see , Its just as bad , worse actually I didnt. I know how me being dragged was.
4) I know in my heart and what we have talked about it wont ever get to that. No matter who he is with. Is all perfect? No, of course not. But I want him back for this last year before he is with his dad the next and he will move on his own he says. Son says he does want to come home and try it this school year. Especially as I mentioned sons plans.
It's about my kids, about their happiness and health. But I miss him and dont like not being in his life. My ex in some ways helped him but the fear if the belt and fun of the alcohol is still issues there. Theres some other issues I wont mention. Hes on the defensive about his dad..excuses him for things.
Its a lose -lose situation. If I get upset or cry too much, I'm not of sound mind. His dad gets angry,its fine. I show no emotion as his dad basically wants and theres something wrong with me. Both my kids DO have a mental illness. My mom, her mom other family various mental issues. His dad and other family on his side violent, and other issues with no dr proof as they deny it. He blames me saying they are fine and it's my fault completely. I'm willing always have been for family therapy as dad says no. It's all my fault.
Had to vent I'm sorry. Some days are harder than others. It hurts.
