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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 760826" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>We all have to do what we think is best but sometimes we become a little delusional about the past. Our hearts soften, during our separation with them, because we so very much want the young boy, who ran in from playing outside, full of excitement and red-cheeked from running, to show up again. We sacrifice ourselves to the point of mental, emotional, physical and financial exhaustion. And guess what nothing changes.</p><p></p><p>My heart tells me you'd know if he changed from the tone and words he speaks to you. </p><p></p><p>Right now I'm going through this with younger 28 yr. old who suffers from mental illness, anxiety, PTSD and drinking, of late. He can't keep a job more than a day and the same ol' same ol' of coming to me for money because he's got this job and needs to just get through until he gets paid. The problem is, he doesn't last but a hot minute and I have started opening my wallet again. Why? The same reasons you want to open your home again to your son. It's OUR hope, OURS not there's that they get better. The only thing they want is a few more dollars to buy drinks or pot until they can sell us another sob story. </p><p></p><p>I feel like I'm being strangled but his inability to function again and all I know is if I had to deal with this 24/7 because I let him live with me, I would be back in therapy. </p><p></p><p>Please think hard and long about your decision to let him in. I don't think they do it on purpose but there is some level of manipulation they use and they pull us back on the merry-go-round until we're spinning so fast we can't see the money flying out of our wallets which they are using for drugs and alcohol!</p><p></p><p>Sorry to digress but my heart is heavy right now and I just hope you watch out for yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 760826, member: 23405"] We all have to do what we think is best but sometimes we become a little delusional about the past. Our hearts soften, during our separation with them, because we so very much want the young boy, who ran in from playing outside, full of excitement and red-cheeked from running, to show up again. We sacrifice ourselves to the point of mental, emotional, physical and financial exhaustion. And guess what nothing changes. My heart tells me you'd know if he changed from the tone and words he speaks to you. Right now I'm going through this with younger 28 yr. old who suffers from mental illness, anxiety, PTSD and drinking, of late. He can't keep a job more than a day and the same ol' same ol' of coming to me for money because he's got this job and needs to just get through until he gets paid. The problem is, he doesn't last but a hot minute and I have started opening my wallet again. Why? The same reasons you want to open your home again to your son. It's OUR hope, OURS not there's that they get better. The only thing they want is a few more dollars to buy drinks or pot until they can sell us another sob story. I feel like I'm being strangled but his inability to function again and all I know is if I had to deal with this 24/7 because I let him live with me, I would be back in therapy. Please think hard and long about your decision to let him in. I don't think they do it on purpose but there is some level of manipulation they use and they pull us back on the merry-go-round until we're spinning so fast we can't see the money flying out of our wallets which they are using for drugs and alcohol! Sorry to digress but my heart is heavy right now and I just hope you watch out for yourself. [/QUOTE]
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