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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 764310" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Our daughter, for the first time, is asking to see a counselor. We think this is a potentially good thing. It might indicate that she is seeking help for her problems. But, she is still exhibiting the same routine of blaming every body else in the world for her woes and not assuming an ounce of personal responsibility. A very rare moment of forethought for making a decision.&nbsp; So, it's unclear to me how these things can reconcile. BUT, I do think of it as a positive that at least she is perhaps to a certain extent is recognizing there are problems within her life (sigh...but never looking within herself) and that she is&nbsp; seeking&nbsp; help....even if perchance she is claiming that it's just bad luck or everyone in the world is mean to her. Sigh. Still, a bit of a positive , right? I'm holding on to that.&nbsp; As a related side note...our daughter has weight issues...that she fairly often complains about...a little less so recently...BUT...she doesn't think it's her fault and has zero desire to try any diets or talk with her doctor or anyone about her weight gain.&nbsp; She will usually tell you it's not her fault or at times she will say she is fine with being overweight ...but on another day will complain miserably about it...it's a horrible viscous cycle and there is NO speaking to her about it as she has ZERO desire to do anything about it or to even speak honestly about it. I do think it is negative on her self esteem...but there is no discussing it, etc. She takes no responsibility , will not be honest and can in fact get violent over this particular topic.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 764310, member: 4152"] Our daughter, for the first time, is asking to see a counselor. We think this is a potentially good thing. It might indicate that she is seeking help for her problems. But, she is still exhibiting the same routine of blaming every body else in the world for her woes and not assuming an ounce of personal responsibility. A very rare moment of forethought for making a decision. So, it's unclear to me how these things can reconcile. BUT, I do think of it as a positive that at least she is perhaps to a certain extent is recognizing there are problems within her life (sigh...but never looking within herself) and that she is seeking help....even if perchance she is claiming that it's just bad luck or everyone in the world is mean to her. Sigh. Still, a bit of a positive , right? I'm holding on to that. As a related side note...our daughter has weight issues...that she fairly often complains about...a little less so recently...BUT...she doesn't think it's her fault and has zero desire to try any diets or talk with her doctor or anyone about her weight gain. She will usually tell you it's not her fault or at times she will say she is fine with being overweight ...but on another day will complain miserably about it...it's a horrible viscous cycle and there is NO speaking to her about it as she has ZERO desire to do anything about it or to even speak honestly about it. I do think it is negative on her self esteem...but there is no discussing it, etc. She takes no responsibility , will not be honest and can in fact get violent over this particular topic. [/QUOTE]

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