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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 651871" data-attributes="member: 8">I'm sorry Jules. If I recall, we're in the same state, and I have to tell you I think a better use of sped/support dollars would be to post signs at the border stating that folks with disabilities are not welcome.&nbsp; But I've lived here waaaay too long.&nbsp; <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/whiteflag.png"&nbsp; class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":whiteflag:" title="whiteflag&nbsp; &nbsp; :whiteflag:" data-shortname=":whiteflag:" />Sometimes it just boils down to how far are you willing to fight.&nbsp; With both of my sped kids, I just eventually gave up.&nbsp; I still feel bad sometimes but honestly, I'm not sure things would've turned out any differently/better if I had had the stamina to fight on.&nbsp; For me, in the end, it boiled down to ensuring that my kids were as well treated as possible (and that's a really sorry statement, I know).&nbsp; Caving in to the SD definitely made my easy child's treatment much better.&nbsp; As far as my difficult child - he wasn't treated badly so much as he was allowed to make bad choices, and .... while maybe having a more realistic IEP/transition plan *might* have helped, my gut says no.&nbsp; He had to figure it out himself.&nbsp; He did, eventually, but it was a heck of a trip to get there.I know the SD doesn't care.&nbsp; I honestly believe that the policy is to deny, deny, deny services until the parent either ponies up and holds them accountable for what they should be doing or just gives up.&nbsp; I know when I filed due process for easy child, I was astonished at the deceptive lengths my SD and their absolute barracuda of an atty went to.&nbsp; Who behaves like that?&nbsp; Who treats kids like that?&nbsp; Why the heck are these people in education in the first place?&nbsp; The deck is stacked.I truly do understand where you're at.&nbsp; I'm so sorry.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="slsh, post: 651871, member: 8"] I'm sorry Jules. If I recall, we're in the same state, and I have to tell you I think a better use of sped/support dollars would be to post signs at the border stating that folks with disabilities are not welcome. But I've lived here waaaay too long. :whiteflag: Sometimes it just boils down to how far are you willing to fight. With both of my sped kids, I just eventually gave up. I still feel bad sometimes but honestly, I'm not sure things would've turned out any differently/better if I had had the stamina to fight on. For me, in the end, it boiled down to ensuring that my kids were as well treated as possible (and that's a really sorry statement, I know). Caving in to the SD definitely made my easy child's treatment much better. As far as my difficult child - he wasn't treated badly so much as he was allowed to make bad choices, and .... while maybe having a more realistic IEP/transition plan *might* have helped, my gut says no. He had to figure it out himself. He did, eventually, but it was a heck of a trip to get there. I know the SD doesn't care. I honestly believe that the policy is to deny, deny, deny services until the parent either ponies up and holds them accountable for what they should be doing or just gives up. I know when I filed due process for easy child, I was astonished at the deceptive lengths my SD and their absolute barracuda of an atty went to. Who behaves like that? Who treats kids like that? Why the heck are these people in education in the first place? The deck is stacked. I truly do understand where you're at. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]

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