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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 764728" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Well, I’m back, at least for now—not sure this system likes my email address or something, lol. I thank Deni for being so responsive and getting me back on so quickly. And thank you Copa for passing on the information.</p><p></p><p>You people are like a lifeline to so many, and your kind expressions about my son’s passing have lifted me up more than I can say. I am eternally grateful.</p><p></p><p>Roxanne, so nice to meet you but sorry you find yourself here. Thank you for your kind thoughts about my son. My condolences on the loss of your stepson.</p><p></p><p>I think loss is loss, no matter the circumstance, and when you love someone and lose them, the void is the same. Questions remain, of course, the whys and what ifs, but that too, is probably universal, regardless of circumstances of death.</p><p></p><p>I am grateful to your stepson for his service. It must be hard living with the possibility of losing a loved one who is a service member. But in my opinion, fighting for your country is the most noble and brave thing anyone can do. I have great respect for those who go into it knowing they might not come home. And for the families they leave behind when they deploy, or sadly, if there is a loss of life. I know you must have been proud of him.</p><p></p><p>Hi LMS, thank you for checking in. I am coping, I think, and will have to start planning a celebration of life service for my son that we’ll have in the spring, so I have to try and stay strong to get through it. I talk to him too—sometimes through tears—but I think he hears me.</p><p></p><p>I am hoping my other son, a guitar player, and a member of his band who is a gifted pianist, might perform some of the music at the service. We’ll see. That would be a great tribute to his brother.</p><p></p><p>We have had such wonderful support—you know that saying, “in times like this, you know who your true friends are…” or something like that. We know who they are, believe me. I have lifelong friends who check on me frequently even though most of them live out of state.</p><p></p><p>A friend made me a quilted coverlet, she said, to bring comfort that is just beautiful. The kind you can wrap around yourself sitting on the couch. Another friend sent a crocheted prayer shawl, made by the ladies in her church, who do this as a ministry, and apparently, pass it around to each lady in the circle and they pray over it to bring comfort. I feel blessed to have these people in my life.</p><p></p><p>Someone else sent a lovely wooden wind chime with a hanging piece that has a beautiful verse about a son. My husband, not wanting to expose it to the cold outside, hung it next to his favorite recliner and touches it every time he thinks of our son. So, I’m frequently hearing the tinkling of the chimes, and it tells me my husband is thinking of our son and brings him comfort as well because he doesn’t cry as much as me but he is grieving too. Our friends and family have truly lifted us up and carried us through some of the most difficult days.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for asking, LMS.</p><p></p><p>I have re-connected with family I haven’t seen since I left home in my early 20s and moved out of state due to a job transfer. They have invited my husband and me to join them during their yearly summer vacation and we plan to rent an RV and take some time off this summer to do that. My other two adult kids will be joining us. Believe it or not, they like to hang out with their old parents. (Not in the RV—it’s too small! Lol) But perfect for the two of us. Eventually, we’d like to buy one when my husband retires and do some traveling because most of my friends and family live out of state and we’re not getting any younger…</p><p></p><p>But we are all staying close and trying to treat each other with tenderness and extra care, because after a loss such as we’ve had, feelings can be very raw and it’s easy to take things the wrong way.</p><p></p><p>Love and hugs to all of you,</p><p>Nandina</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 764728, member: 23742"] Well, I’m back, at least for now—not sure this system likes my email address or something, lol. I thank Deni for being so responsive and getting me back on so quickly. And thank you Copa for passing on the information. You people are like a lifeline to so many, and your kind expressions about my son’s passing have lifted me up more than I can say. I am eternally grateful. Roxanne, so nice to meet you but sorry you find yourself here. Thank you for your kind thoughts about my son. My condolences on the loss of your stepson. I think loss is loss, no matter the circumstance, and when you love someone and lose them, the void is the same. Questions remain, of course, the whys and what ifs, but that too, is probably universal, regardless of circumstances of death. I am grateful to your stepson for his service. It must be hard living with the possibility of losing a loved one who is a service member. But in my opinion, fighting for your country is the most noble and brave thing anyone can do. I have great respect for those who go into it knowing they might not come home. And for the families they leave behind when they deploy, or sadly, if there is a loss of life. I know you must have been proud of him. Hi LMS, thank you for checking in. I am coping, I think, and will have to start planning a celebration of life service for my son that we’ll have in the spring, so I have to try and stay strong to get through it. I talk to him too—sometimes through tears—but I think he hears me. I am hoping my other son, a guitar player, and a member of his band who is a gifted pianist, might perform some of the music at the service. We’ll see. That would be a great tribute to his brother. We have had such wonderful support—you know that saying, “in times like this, you know who your true friends are…” or something like that. We know who they are, believe me. I have lifelong friends who check on me frequently even though most of them live out of state. A friend made me a quilted coverlet, she said, to bring comfort that is just beautiful. The kind you can wrap around yourself sitting on the couch. Another friend sent a crocheted prayer shawl, made by the ladies in her church, who do this as a ministry, and apparently, pass it around to each lady in the circle and they pray over it to bring comfort. I feel blessed to have these people in my life. Someone else sent a lovely wooden wind chime with a hanging piece that has a beautiful verse about a son. My husband, not wanting to expose it to the cold outside, hung it next to his favorite recliner and touches it every time he thinks of our son. So, I’m frequently hearing the tinkling of the chimes, and it tells me my husband is thinking of our son and brings him comfort as well because he doesn’t cry as much as me but he is grieving too. Our friends and family have truly lifted us up and carried us through some of the most difficult days. Thank you for asking, LMS. I have re-connected with family I haven’t seen since I left home in my early 20s and moved out of state due to a job transfer. They have invited my husband and me to join them during their yearly summer vacation and we plan to rent an RV and take some time off this summer to do that. My other two adult kids will be joining us. Believe it or not, they like to hang out with their old parents. (Not in the RV—it’s too small! Lol) But perfect for the two of us. Eventually, we’d like to buy one when my husband retires and do some traveling because most of my friends and family live out of state and we’re not getting any younger… But we are all staying close and trying to treat each other with tenderness and extra care, because after a loss such as we’ve had, feelings can be very raw and it’s easy to take things the wrong way. Love and hugs to all of you, Nandina [/QUOTE]
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