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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 729988" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Thanks Tanya. Isn't it such twilight zone stuff? I have the Catholic guilt and over responsible personality thing going so at times I think I must have done something to cause him to think and say these things. But they are so far from the truth it makes my mind spin. </p><p>He's said I've done so many things to him and has emailed me that I just can't admit it to myself because I'm emotionally unstable and I have a guilty conscience. From what I've experienced with him since he's been really unstable since last summer he says the things to me that actually apply to him. Not the wild stories but the general accusations. So it tells me he's making excuses for his bad behavior and knows he's in a bad place emotionally. </p><p>As I've backed off from rescuing him from shooting himself in the foot the shaming thing is his main go to. It worked on me in the past but now because it's become so out there it's having the opposite affect. I don't deserve this bs, from anyone. </p><p>I've managed to get past worrying what people think pretty well by now. I've had to deal with that since he was very young with the "good parents" who's kids didn't meltdown on the soccer field and such. In the case of those who believe things about me that are not true, they mostly don't insult me directly but speak to me as if I'm a different person than who I am. My response to that is to back off from them and only deal with them as much as I have to, very superficially. </p><p>The local police are my only concern at this point. They do seem to believe my son from the damaging advice they have given him and he's tried to follow through on. Makes me wonder about some of their upbringing. But if my son decides to come to my house and I do call them they will have no choice other than to remove him for trespassing at this point. I haven't decided yet but I might try to see about getting some education material on mental health I saw on web somewhere for local police departments and have a meeting with the chief. Not sure if it would be helpful or just put a spotlight on me as a someone they should keep an eye on. In the meantime I make sure I come to a full stop at any stop signs in town <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 729988, member: 22840"] Thanks Tanya. Isn't it such twilight zone stuff? I have the Catholic guilt and over responsible personality thing going so at times I think I must have done something to cause him to think and say these things. But they are so far from the truth it makes my mind spin. He's said I've done so many things to him and has emailed me that I just can't admit it to myself because I'm emotionally unstable and I have a guilty conscience. From what I've experienced with him since he's been really unstable since last summer he says the things to me that actually apply to him. Not the wild stories but the general accusations. So it tells me he's making excuses for his bad behavior and knows he's in a bad place emotionally. As I've backed off from rescuing him from shooting himself in the foot the shaming thing is his main go to. It worked on me in the past but now because it's become so out there it's having the opposite affect. I don't deserve this bs, from anyone. I've managed to get past worrying what people think pretty well by now. I've had to deal with that since he was very young with the "good parents" who's kids didn't meltdown on the soccer field and such. In the case of those who believe things about me that are not true, they mostly don't insult me directly but speak to me as if I'm a different person than who I am. My response to that is to back off from them and only deal with them as much as I have to, very superficially. The local police are my only concern at this point. They do seem to believe my son from the damaging advice they have given him and he's tried to follow through on. Makes me wonder about some of their upbringing. But if my son decides to come to my house and I do call them they will have no choice other than to remove him for trespassing at this point. I haven't decided yet but I might try to see about getting some education material on mental health I saw on web somewhere for local police departments and have a meeting with the chief. Not sure if it would be helpful or just put a spotlight on me as a someone they should keep an eye on. In the meantime I make sure I come to a full stop at any stop signs in town :-). [/QUOTE]
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