Reply to thread

Message

<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 764244" data-attributes="member: 23371">LMS.&nbsp; This is the second time I've been here in years.&nbsp; And glad I came if I can offer any comfort.&nbsp; I'm great.&nbsp; Enjoying my &quot;retirement&quot; collecting ss and pension.&nbsp; #3 lives with me by mutual choice and is my delight.&nbsp; He's still &quot;in training&quot; to live with a roommate in current home when I'm gone. Has the perfect PT job for him and SSDI should give him enough to live on.&nbsp; Haven't got him fully set up for independent living so that keeps me busy.&nbsp; #2 lives nearby with a girlfriend and supports himself.&nbsp; Still maturing but on the right track.&nbsp; #3 has ODD as always but now its more tolerable because he has to live with his choices, bros and I not affected.&nbsp; I only look on from afar.&nbsp; Did 10 years in fed system for selling but had a better chance of living there than out.&nbsp; So was fine with me.&nbsp; Wanted to meet biomom so I found her and they have some relationship now.&nbsp; He moved to live near her.&nbsp; Says if he lived here he'd use again.&nbsp; Refuses 12 step or any other support.&nbsp; Makes a lot of money legally now and says he's clean.&nbsp; I struggle with his attitude that everything is roses now and his lousy childhood and damage to rest of us was all my fault.&nbsp; &quot;If I had just left him alone&quot; he could have handled all the drugs and behaviors, would have finished HS (despite not attending and being high every day) and life would now be better.&nbsp; His last drug of choice was heroin.&nbsp; Sure, OD'd many times but he would today be fine living on heroin if I had just let him be. Uh huh.And introducing them to their biomoms... Another interesting facet of life.&nbsp; Can only introduce them and let go.&nbsp; And for me, try to find forgiveness for what was done to them in utero.&nbsp; That's a 3 yr work in progress. Or lack of progress.&nbsp; LOL.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 764244, member: 23371"] LMS. This is the second time I've been here in years. And glad I came if I can offer any comfort. I'm great. Enjoying my "retirement" collecting ss and pension. #3 lives with me by mutual choice and is my delight. He's still "in training" to live with a roommate in current home when I'm gone. Has the perfect PT job for him and SSDI should give him enough to live on. Haven't got him fully set up for independent living so that keeps me busy. #2 lives nearby with a girlfriend and supports himself. Still maturing but on the right track. #3 has ODD as always but now its more tolerable because he has to live with his choices, bros and I not affected. I only look on from afar. Did 10 years in fed system for selling but had a better chance of living there than out. So was fine with me. Wanted to meet biomom so I found her and they have some relationship now. He moved to live near her. Says if he lived here he'd use again. Refuses 12 step or any other support. Makes a lot of money legally now and says he's clean. I struggle with his attitude that everything is roses now and his lousy childhood and damage to rest of us was all my fault. "If I had just left him alone" he could have handled all the drugs and behaviors, would have finished HS (despite not attending and being high every day) and life would now be better. His last drug of choice was heroin. Sure, OD'd many times but he would today be fine living on heroin if I had just let him be. Uh huh. And introducing them to their biomoms... Another interesting facet of life. Can only introduce them and let go. And for me, try to find forgiveness for what was done to them in utero. That's a 3 yr work in progress. Or lack of progress. LOL. [/QUOTE]

Verification