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<blockquote data-quote="healinginside" data-source="post: 762911" data-attributes="member: 29962"><p>Pat,</p><p></p><p>I’m going to state the obvious here, you are in full Papa bear mode. Despite your daughter’s actions, you love your daughter and want to protect her. As you state clearly in your story, there is literally nothing that you can do. I don’t know how much contact you have with her, but it would catch the attention of all parties involved if you changed your roar to a whisper. They (great grandma and co & your daughter) are expecting your rants, screaming, angst , 5150. They aren’t expecting you to just say nothing and go stoic. I encourage you to stop looking at her social media, stop tracing her every move - just at least for one week. You know how to care for others and that means you know how to take care of yourself. It may mean something as simple as putting the phone down or turning the computer off and going into the kitchen and making yourself a cup of coffee, sitting outside, smelling the fresh air, or even doing some deep breathing exercises. All of us caregivers know how to take care of others, and how to take care of ourselves, but our self care is obliterated with the need to help and save our children to help beyond their years. We are with you if you need to get professional help from a mental program that is completely acceptable but don’t throw yourself in a 5150 because that’s going to somehow help your daughter from going over the edge. As you have said, she is a smart girl. as you know, the situation is out of your control. The only fans thing and the dancing on TikTok is part of the new generation. I am not saying to accept this or that I think that it is right, but I do see it and to see your daughter go through it after she had such a bright future is excruciating for you. The good news is, she is a smart girl. That means that she can get herself out of this is the situation when the time comes. one thing that may help you study the works of the stoics and as many people have said here, studying families anonymous and. detaching. Sometimes we all have to step back and take a look at our lives to realize how crazy they’ve become. I know that I have done this. I am still in the midst of my situation and it hurts. Every day it hurts. But I also know that if I don’t take take care of myself, no one else will. as the saying goes - I want you to go look at yourself in the mirror right now, that is the person that has gotten you through every rough day of your life, be kind to him</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="healinginside, post: 762911, member: 29962"] Pat, I’m going to state the obvious here, you are in full Papa bear mode. Despite your daughter’s actions, you love your daughter and want to protect her. As you state clearly in your story, there is literally nothing that you can do. I don’t know how much contact you have with her, but it would catch the attention of all parties involved if you changed your roar to a whisper. They (great grandma and co & your daughter) are expecting your rants, screaming, angst , 5150. They aren’t expecting you to just say nothing and go stoic. I encourage you to stop looking at her social media, stop tracing her every move - just at least for one week. You know how to care for others and that means you know how to take care of yourself. It may mean something as simple as putting the phone down or turning the computer off and going into the kitchen and making yourself a cup of coffee, sitting outside, smelling the fresh air, or even doing some deep breathing exercises. All of us caregivers know how to take care of others, and how to take care of ourselves, but our self care is obliterated with the need to help and save our children to help beyond their years. We are with you if you need to get professional help from a mental program that is completely acceptable but don’t throw yourself in a 5150 because that’s going to somehow help your daughter from going over the edge. As you have said, she is a smart girl. as you know, the situation is out of your control. The only fans thing and the dancing on TikTok is part of the new generation. I am not saying to accept this or that I think that it is right, but I do see it and to see your daughter go through it after she had such a bright future is excruciating for you. The good news is, she is a smart girl. That means that she can get herself out of this is the situation when the time comes. one thing that may help you study the works of the stoics and as many people have said here, studying families anonymous and. detaching. Sometimes we all have to step back and take a look at our lives to realize how crazy they’ve become. I know that I have done this. I am still in the midst of my situation and it hurts. Every day it hurts. But I also know that if I don’t take take care of myself, no one else will. as the saying goes - I want you to go look at yourself in the mirror right now, that is the person that has gotten you through every rough day of your life, be kind to him [/QUOTE]
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