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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 764095" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>I have asked him what made him do meth after being free of it for so long. I thought maybe it was this: I found out after he was kicked out of his friend’s house that there had been some issues going on with the friend who had started becoming fairly manipulative. Apparently, he would try to get my son to do certain things, like accompanying him to confront someone the friend didn’t like, who had a gun. He would tell my son if he didn’t help him, he wouldn’t have a place to live anymore. Apparently he used the same threat in other circumstances, my son said.</p><p></p><p>My son was smart enough to know that confronting someone who owned an AK-47 was a bad idea, but he almost went along for fear of losing his place to stay. Thankfully, the friend’s mother called just as they were getting ready to leave, and unknowingly thwarted it.</p><p></p><p>My son had never before seen this behavior in his life-long friend, who also has some issues, non drug-related. But another friend, a good one, said that he could tell my son’s anger was building over being treated like that. I asked son if being angry led him do the meth and he said no, he just felt like doing it.</p><p></p><p>I don’t really believe that as I know how hard it is for him to express his feelings in a socially acceptable way. The anger builds and then he rages. About the only emotions he can identify in himself are intense anger and sadness. As I’ve stated before, he is considered on the spectrum and it’s not uncommon for those similarly affected to have difficulty expressing emotion. And seeing his life-long friend devolve into a manipulative little opportunist, I think really shook him up. He loved him like a brother and has known him since third grade.</p><p></p><p>And please know that I am not excusing the drug use or bad behavior. I just think there might be more to the story. And yes, Crayola, he does have both depression and anxiety but won’t seek treatment, at least not yet. He stopped medication when he turned 18. Perhaps he’ll someday realize that the only way he can have us in his life is if he enrolls in a drug and/or mental health treatment program. I keep praying for his lightbulb moment.</p><p></p><p>Thanks, Crayola, I appreciate your insights.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 764095, member: 23742"] I have asked him what made him do meth after being free of it for so long. I thought maybe it was this: I found out after he was kicked out of his friend’s house that there had been some issues going on with the friend who had started becoming fairly manipulative. Apparently, he would try to get my son to do certain things, like accompanying him to confront someone the friend didn’t like, who had a gun. He would tell my son if he didn’t help him, he wouldn’t have a place to live anymore. Apparently he used the same threat in other circumstances, my son said. My son was smart enough to know that confronting someone who owned an AK-47 was a bad idea, but he almost went along for fear of losing his place to stay. Thankfully, the friend’s mother called just as they were getting ready to leave, and unknowingly thwarted it. My son had never before seen this behavior in his life-long friend, who also has some issues, non drug-related. But another friend, a good one, said that he could tell my son’s anger was building over being treated like that. I asked son if being angry led him do the meth and he said no, he just felt like doing it. I don’t really believe that as I know how hard it is for him to express his feelings in a socially acceptable way. The anger builds and then he rages. About the only emotions he can identify in himself are intense anger and sadness. As I’ve stated before, he is considered on the spectrum and it’s not uncommon for those similarly affected to have difficulty expressing emotion. And seeing his life-long friend devolve into a manipulative little opportunist, I think really shook him up. He loved him like a brother and has known him since third grade. And please know that I am not excusing the drug use or bad behavior. I just think there might be more to the story. And yes, Crayola, he does have both depression and anxiety but won’t seek treatment, at least not yet. He stopped medication when he turned 18. Perhaps he’ll someday realize that the only way he can have us in his life is if he enrolls in a drug and/or mental health treatment program. I keep praying for his lightbulb moment. Thanks, Crayola, I appreciate your insights. [/QUOTE]
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