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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 604203" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">I agree that routine is important for our kids, especially in the younger years. Predictability is comfort. It doesn't raise the anxiety or frustration that many of our difficult children feel when they are in new or unplanned situations. Many times the anxiety and frustration are what cause the behavior.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">Only you know the kids and only you know "your line in the sand". Following through with consequences and clearly explaining your expectations before outings is what really helped us. I would say to difficult child, "this afternoon we have to go to the shoe store to get you new sneakers. I expect you to listen to me, not run around in the store, and not talk back. If you break the rules, there will be no discussion in the store but when you get home you loose tv privileges." - or gaming privileges, or outside time, or whatever is good motivation for your kid. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">It won't work the first time or perhaps the second or third. But, just as our kids do well with schedules and routine, once they really know you mean business and will follow through with your consequences, it can make a positive difference.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">Having said that I will also say I only took difficult child along if absolutely necessary when he was really young!!!</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'">*Sharon</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 604203, member: 805"] [SIZE=3][FONT=comic sans ms]I agree that routine is important for our kids, especially in the younger years. Predictability is comfort. It doesn't raise the anxiety or frustration that many of our difficult children feel when they are in new or unplanned situations. Many times the anxiety and frustration are what cause the behavior.[/FONT] [FONT=comic sans ms]Only you know the kids and only you know "your line in the sand". Following through with consequences and clearly explaining your expectations before outings is what really helped us. I would say to difficult child, "this afternoon we have to go to the shoe store to get you new sneakers. I expect you to listen to me, not run around in the store, and not talk back. If you break the rules, there will be no discussion in the store but when you get home you loose tv privileges." - or gaming privileges, or outside time, or whatever is good motivation for your kid. It won't work the first time or perhaps the second or third. But, just as our kids do well with schedules and routine, once they really know you mean business and will follow through with your consequences, it can make a positive difference. Having said that I will also say I only took difficult child along if absolutely necessary when he was really young!!! *Sharon [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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