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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 655000" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>It is long time ago I read the book, but I remember thinking at the time, not only the fact that he should be dead or severely health impaired, due the abuse he describes, but what he did or didn't write. First thing is, that he seems to remember so well every individual happening instead of things blending together like Hound Dog described. But that of course could be a trick of memory. When you try to think back something, it is very possible that while your memories do blend together and mix, you do not recognize it and you kind of create a new, linear memory. It can be very difficult thing in the court and so on, because you feel that things A and B and C happened at that same evening at that certain time and then the evidence shows that it didn't. When actually it can be that B happened that night (or month before or after) and A and C happened in some other time even a year or two apart. When something bad happens and it happens all the time, it is very difficult to keep up the linear memory of it.</p><p></p><p>What I found odd, that he didn't write about, if my memory serves me right, was how little there was description of the anticipation if something would happen today. Waiting to hear or see in what mood the abuser was, trying to please them, being afraid of doing this or that wrong that could set them off. Trying to figure out, what exactly you do, that causes this and how to avoid it. And with young children that often turns to magical thinking. If I just flip my hand three times and keep saying this sentence and don't step the red stones when I come home, everything will be alright. Not having any control is so scary that human beings like to make up anything that make them feel they have some control. And when child is in question, the ways to imagine that control can be very imaginative. And by the way, when that imagined control shatters, especially if the abuser has let you understand you do have that control and then takes it away, that really breaks a person (and is well known torture and brainwashing tool even for adults.)</p><p></p><p>I don't know how many of you is familiar with Rolling Stone's 'A Rape on Campus'-story. It was rather believable false story about a rape. Or more so, it was a rape story that didn't happen at the time, place or by the people, the victim claimed it did. In my neck of woods there were a similar story about bullying and a kid committing suicide because of that and parents wanting to tell the story, that actually did fly much longer, before some more critical journalists found out it was a hoax orchestrated by a would-be writer, who came up with the story, was a public face of it and also wrote blogs in the name of the parents and a diary of the dead girl. Thing in these types of situations is, that there was no rape on the campus that night nor was there a girl who committed suicide. But that doesn't mean there wasn't the rape, or there wasn't that inhuman, relentless bullying that could had caused a girl to commit suicide. There may have well been. In fact it feels likely there was. It just wasn't at that time nor at that place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 655000, member: 14557"] It is long time ago I read the book, but I remember thinking at the time, not only the fact that he should be dead or severely health impaired, due the abuse he describes, but what he did or didn't write. First thing is, that he seems to remember so well every individual happening instead of things blending together like Hound Dog described. But that of course could be a trick of memory. When you try to think back something, it is very possible that while your memories do blend together and mix, you do not recognize it and you kind of create a new, linear memory. It can be very difficult thing in the court and so on, because you feel that things A and B and C happened at that same evening at that certain time and then the evidence shows that it didn't. When actually it can be that B happened that night (or month before or after) and A and C happened in some other time even a year or two apart. When something bad happens and it happens all the time, it is very difficult to keep up the linear memory of it. What I found odd, that he didn't write about, if my memory serves me right, was how little there was description of the anticipation if something would happen today. Waiting to hear or see in what mood the abuser was, trying to please them, being afraid of doing this or that wrong that could set them off. Trying to figure out, what exactly you do, that causes this and how to avoid it. And with young children that often turns to magical thinking. If I just flip my hand three times and keep saying this sentence and don't step the red stones when I come home, everything will be alright. Not having any control is so scary that human beings like to make up anything that make them feel they have some control. And when child is in question, the ways to imagine that control can be very imaginative. And by the way, when that imagined control shatters, especially if the abuser has let you understand you do have that control and then takes it away, that really breaks a person (and is well known torture and brainwashing tool even for adults.) I don't know how many of you is familiar with Rolling Stone's 'A Rape on Campus'-story. It was rather believable false story about a rape. Or more so, it was a rape story that didn't happen at the time, place or by the people, the victim claimed it did. In my neck of woods there were a similar story about bullying and a kid committing suicide because of that and parents wanting to tell the story, that actually did fly much longer, before some more critical journalists found out it was a hoax orchestrated by a would-be writer, who came up with the story, was a public face of it and also wrote blogs in the name of the parents and a diary of the dead girl. Thing in these types of situations is, that there was no rape on the campus that night nor was there a girl who committed suicide. But that doesn't mean there wasn't the rape, or there wasn't that inhuman, relentless bullying that could had caused a girl to commit suicide. There may have well been. In fact it feels likely there was. It just wasn't at that time nor at that place. [/QUOTE]
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