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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764233" data-attributes="member: 18958">Where i live the Rescue Mission provides free housing in Sober Living Homes. They have a program that involves counseling, treatment, social and life skills, and paid work. After a year or so they will set people up in subsidized apartments. They do not withdraw their oversight. But all of this is contingent on sobriety.&nbsp;The thing is, our children will tell us what we want to hear, to get the prize. After that they have no incentive (except their own, if it is there) to continue to give us what we want.I am contemplating letting my son move back into the home I bought. There is an apartment. But it will be contingent upon receiving treatment first and maintaining sobriety on the property. I will not ask for anything from him, except that. (It is a big ask.) This is because I do not want any legal commitments on my part, to him.&nbsp; I am finally waking up to see and accept that where I have authority is in my limits, what I need, and what I do. And I have no authority or control over him. There is only hope.Even extending my neck out this far, I see, is a huge vulnerability for me emotionally.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764233, member: 18958"] Where i live the Rescue Mission provides free housing in Sober Living Homes. They have a program that involves counseling, treatment, social and life skills, and paid work. After a year or so they will set people up in subsidized apartments. They do not withdraw their oversight. But all of this is contingent on sobriety. The thing is, our children will tell us what we want to hear, to get the prize. After that they have no incentive (except their own, if it is there) to continue to give us what we want. I am contemplating letting my son move back into the home I bought. There is an apartment. But it will be contingent upon receiving treatment first and maintaining sobriety on the property. I will not ask for anything from him, except that. (It is a big ask.) This is because I do not want any legal commitments on my part, to him. I am finally waking up to see and accept that where I have authority is in my limits, what I need, and what I do. And I have no authority or control over him. There is only hope. Even extending my neck out this far, I see, is a huge vulnerability for me emotionally. [/QUOTE]

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