RN0441
100% better than I was but not at 100% yet
Thanks to everyone for their support. So happy that we all have each other to offer comfort and advice.
As you may recall (if we can even remember all the stories we read about here!) my son relapsed on pills (after five years without pills!!!) in July as we were preparing our move across the country from the Alabama Coast back to Chicagoland for my husband's job. Let me add that my son WANTED this move. Due to his relapse, he got fired from his Home Depot job and did not pass his last class in college (stopped going to class) and did NOT get his Associates Degree in Computer Networking after working very hard and getting good grades and even being on the Dean's List once. Naturally we were heartbroken and felt like we had gotten run over by a truck. A big truck!! This happened as husband I were already super stressed about move, job changes etc. and we're early 60's!!
His dad made him leave and he drove to Chicago ahead of us and got a job at Amazon and is still there. He again relapsed on pills in our home and we made him leave. After a few weeks and him telling us that he again used pills and he knew he screwed up, we helped him get an apartment and he seems to be finally adjusting to all the newness. He just got a second part time job for his days off as he realizes that he doesn't need much free time. He had his brothers over last weekend for the Bears game and they had a long talk with him and talked about budgeting his money and other life skills and he seems to be more aware of what he needs to do to move forward. He never listened to us but talking to his "peers" seemed to have reached him. He even is laying off caffeine and sugar right now.
He told his brothers he feels good after working and going to apartment to relax but on days off gets lonely (and bored and leads to bad things). We told him he can come here once per week to have dinner and stay and then any other time he wants until he gets adjusted to being alone.
So we really don't know what will happen but I'm praying he stays on track and does not use pills ever again but I know I cannot control any of this. We plan to help him for a year and then see where he is. We are going to encourage him in January to go back to school to finish his degree so he can make enough to support himself. It's so nice for husband and I to have our life back. I think he likes being in his own place also.
I'm trying to stay positive which is what we all desperately need!
As you may recall (if we can even remember all the stories we read about here!) my son relapsed on pills (after five years without pills!!!) in July as we were preparing our move across the country from the Alabama Coast back to Chicagoland for my husband's job. Let me add that my son WANTED this move. Due to his relapse, he got fired from his Home Depot job and did not pass his last class in college (stopped going to class) and did NOT get his Associates Degree in Computer Networking after working very hard and getting good grades and even being on the Dean's List once. Naturally we were heartbroken and felt like we had gotten run over by a truck. A big truck!! This happened as husband I were already super stressed about move, job changes etc. and we're early 60's!!
His dad made him leave and he drove to Chicago ahead of us and got a job at Amazon and is still there. He again relapsed on pills in our home and we made him leave. After a few weeks and him telling us that he again used pills and he knew he screwed up, we helped him get an apartment and he seems to be finally adjusting to all the newness. He just got a second part time job for his days off as he realizes that he doesn't need much free time. He had his brothers over last weekend for the Bears game and they had a long talk with him and talked about budgeting his money and other life skills and he seems to be more aware of what he needs to do to move forward. He never listened to us but talking to his "peers" seemed to have reached him. He even is laying off caffeine and sugar right now.
He told his brothers he feels good after working and going to apartment to relax but on days off gets lonely (and bored and leads to bad things). We told him he can come here once per week to have dinner and stay and then any other time he wants until he gets adjusted to being alone.
So we really don't know what will happen but I'm praying he stays on track and does not use pills ever again but I know I cannot control any of this. We plan to help him for a year and then see where he is. We are going to encourage him in January to go back to school to finish his degree so he can make enough to support himself. It's so nice for husband and I to have our life back. I think he likes being in his own place also.
I'm trying to stay positive which is what we all desperately need!
