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<blockquote data-quote="dandelion" data-source="post: 764109" data-attributes="member: 30736">Hi Lansdowne. I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. I am the bio parent in my situation with a 22 yo son unofficially diagnosed by a family therapist with Antisocial PD.I agree with KTMom and Deni above, that guilt could be driving your husband's choice to allow your stepson to treat him badly, and turn away from the self help books and offers for counseling you've asked him to consider. There may be things your husband isn't ready to face, not at all that this situation is his fault, but the fact that it may never improve. Once a parent faces this heartbreaking truth, there is tremendous grief. Some people are more comfortable in the hell they know, than stepping into one they don't. I hope you are able to care for yourself. You mentioned a phobia that you have developed, I wonder if you have considered talking to a therapist that specializes in PTSD? This has been tremendously helpful for me (working with a therapist that didn't have knowledge of trauma or personality disorders was not helpful).Wishing you all the best, glad you found this forum.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="dandelion, post: 764109, member: 30736"] Hi Lansdowne. I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. I am the bio parent in my situation with a 22 yo son unofficially diagnosed by a family therapist with Antisocial PD. I agree with KTMom and Deni above, that guilt could be driving your husband's choice to allow your stepson to treat him badly, and turn away from the self help books and offers for counseling you've asked him to consider. There may be things your husband isn't ready to face, not at all that this situation is his fault, but the fact that it may never improve. Once a parent faces this heartbreaking truth, there is tremendous grief. Some people are more comfortable in the hell they know, than stepping into one they don't. I hope you are able to care for yourself. You mentioned a phobia that you have developed, I wonder if you have considered talking to a therapist that specializes in PTSD? This has been tremendously helpful for me (working with a therapist that didn't have knowledge of trauma or personality disorders was not helpful). Wishing you all the best, glad you found this forum. [/QUOTE]

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