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My son, now 23, is getting out of jail tomorrow, after being there the better part of two years. He has had multiple discharges to mental health facilities, and he has jumped on all of them, often after as little as 36 hours. He always gets arrested again soon after. This has been going on...

My Difficult Child came home for Thanksgiving . He is on the lam, with warrants out for his arrest. He called my house, my phone, my boyfriend, and my ex in a frantic flurry on Wednesday night, leaving messages everywhere asking if he could come for Thanksgiving. He was always the most family oriented of...

So I'd like some help sorting through how to handle the next few days. So my son went from 6 months in jail to a residential treatment center...inpatient, where he is supposed to stay for 4-6 months, and then he had a placement in transitional housing in a place with job support, drug testing...

But he got out yestarday. I haven't been on the board much lately (reading but not commenting), so a quick refresh...my son is 21, has lifelong differences, we aggressively attended to them with therapists, IEPs, and a variety of educational supports culminating in 15 months at at therapeutic...

Do you ever wonder that? A few weeks ago I drove up to the jail to try to visit my son. I was confident I was fine. My SO was worried and offered to go with me, but I poopooed that. I read the instructions about where and when to go, and what to wear (for those of you who haven't made this...

I know I"ve been quiet for a while..I've been reading a long and joining in here and there. It is partly because I don't have much to say...I feel quiet in myself, even. My son has been in jail for a couple of months now, and will be for many months longer. His case is wending its way through...

still early in the game, but it looks like Difficult Child will be in prison for at least a year. He asked me to send him books or magazines, which I am willing to do and the prison website says there is a way to do that as long as they are "appropriate." so...anyone have any good, inspirational, not too...

Difficult Child and I have been floating in a neutral zone. Every week we make a lunch date. Every week he cancels. I have become quite comfortable with this pattern (for those of you who don't know Difficult Child is a mentally ill 21 year old street person,as he has been for 4 years now). I feel like he feels...

I've been thinking a lot about Headlight Mom's posts about good memories...it is really great to be reminded that this is not all one sad negative slog..for most of us, if we try, we can come up with some good memories...even if it is just the memory of hope and optimisim when the kids first...

You know, for years I pingponged around reacting to the latest event (not to say disaster). I met with teachers, aides, principals, educational specialists, speech therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, I drew up chore charts and contracts. Later I went to court, met with police officers...

As the weeks go by, I realize that I'm not really detached...I harbor a hope, nay, a belief, that difficult child will finally GET IT if I can just find the right key, and I was laboring under the delusion that losing me (by going no contact) would surely be it.... Stop harboring hopes of change Echo...

Hey ya'll! I think Child is getting married, like ANY DAY NOW!!! How exciting is that??? Let us all circle the wagons and dance wildly for her happiness. and....we are coming up on the one year anniversary of my finding the forum. What a long strange year...but really, only the...

I haven't heard much at all from or about difficult child since I asked him to leave my house after a short stay after rehab...he was stealing small amounts of cash from us, and on his way out helped himself to a phone and some Bose bluetooth speakers. A few days later he texted his 16 year old (then 15...

I want to think out loud about something that feels awkward, or maybe even horrible, to say. I'm saying it here because I have always found it so helpful to have you all be honest, to share the things we can't say to others. Here is the thing. I don't want to hear from difficult child any more. I don't...

Yestarday I was walking home from work and my phone rang, a call from a number I didn't recognize. No brainer, I don't answer those, they are usually from difficult child...it is astounding how many people, including strangers on the street, will let him use their phones to call me. The call goes...

my 16 year old showed me a text from difficult child last night..."I'll give you a free bag or $5 for every new customer you bring me, k" I went from shocked to nauseated to now...very very very angry. I tried to post on an anonymous hotline to the police, but the service was dead. I told my ex, who sent...

I'm not going to say I kicked him out. What happened is that he chose not to live by the house rules and common rules of society, and therefore chose not to stay. Because choice one leads inexorably to choice two. difficult child was struggling along but doing OK...he picked up work for 2 days, applied...

difficult child has been out of rehab for a week now. He has been clean for two weeks. He picked up some day work as a laborer. He is paying for his own phone (and cigs and candy and transportation to work) He goes to meetings twice a day. He's been enveloped by SO's boyfriend, who is an alcoholic with 10 years...

That is me being a little cynical. But I would like some opinions/advice. difficult child has continued to thrash around since I cut off all contact 2 weeks ago (due to his ongoing heroin use, choice to live under a bridge/homeless for two years, and generally persistent downward slide). He told his dad...

This is what I wrote to my son yestarday by facebook message ( a pretty reliable way of communicating with him) In the days and weeks since I reesablished contact with him (after 2 months of no contact when he got out of jail), I have not once felt happy or light after seeing or hearing from...