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Hello COM- this is Backinthesaddle (BITS)...I've been quiet for quite a while, trying to find a 'way' for myself in all this pain and loss, but reading on a regular basis...you've helped me in the past so I wanted to reach out to you now to reassure you that all the work you've done isn't...

Happy Mother's day to all of you. This is the first one for me without my Mom (we're not speaking) or my son (I MIGHT get to see him but not holding my breath). I had a dream about my Mom that brought all those feelings to the surface. She's Borderline PD so not an easy lady to live with much...

Sorry it's been a hard day...it is a day that signifies 'rebirth' and it's hard not to yearn that something like that will happen to our difficult children...I've been struggling a lot with my faith given all the difficult child stuff and my husband has me watching TD Jakes...have you ever watched him? he's a very...

Thanks Cedar, for the thoughts...you are a wise woman...so, we got the 'next thing' today...my mother, who has been staying out of this so far (in terms of interacting with us, I know she's been DEEP in pushing for the drama and hurt) called my husband today and left him a voice mail...it said 'you...

I love that imagery...I know what scene you mean but it has been a long time since I saw it...I've downloaded the book (verbal abuse) you recommended and reading it this afternoon...something happened with difficult child that seems to be pretty telling...I had emailed him about the latest with his...

thanks for taking the time to write, Cedar...I really needed it this morning...had a rough night but taking this morning off to be outside on this beautiful day and try and feel better about myself...you're right, the anger is consuming and I suppose I do need to face that difficult child is in all this...

I updated another thread with the fact that I got yet another letter from my father on Friday...the way it was addressed was upsetting so I returned it unopened...I sent difficult child an email to tell him-- I've kept him out of this in hopes of not putting him in the middle but I think he's already there...

I agree with 'toughlovin'....every one of us approached it a bit differently yet wound up with difficult children (and some of you also got PCs-- I only had 1 so no one else to count)...what you say, MWM (I pasted below)---just can't be so because many of my friends are the kinds of moms you and Cedar...

Hey MWM== haven't chatted with you in awhile...hope you're ok...my difficult child is the only child and I gave him most everything...I let him get away with far too much, always took the easy punishment because for at least the last 7-8 years, he's clearly been mentally ill and I felt sorry for him, knew...

Thanks so much, Cedar...it always helps to read your replies...I've been thinking a lot about my childhood today and trying to trace all the abuse over the years...I have been working through this for many years, my whole adult life really because my father is an alcoholic who has never really...

I got another letter from my father today!!!....I thought about starting a new thread since it's a letter I've received since telling him to STOP contacting me, giving him documentation of how what he is doing and saying is domestic violence...another one! Based on how it was addressed, it too...

Hello everyone...I just love hearing from you guys...I've been really busy at work and having to work at nights too but no, sleep isn't any better...I seem to be strong enough to handle alot of stress in either my job or at home but not both!...;-)...I haven't heard from difficult child in 2 weeks...he's...

Thanks to all for your ideas...another question I have is how to get through the nights? it's 4am and I was laying awake in bed since 2:30am, worrying about difficult child and if he'd ever realize how sick he is and the more I think about things, the more I can feel my body tensing up...the relaxation from...

There's so much pain in these messages...sometimes it's hard to read through them and I've been where you are so I know how deep and intense it is...I'm sorry your difficult child is having a bad day, tryagain...I hope things are calmer now and her medications are starting to kick in more... I'm so sorry CA that...

you're right, MWM--- I absolutely have learned to tune it out when others who have not lived our lives tell us all about what we should do. That includes relatives, acquaintances, good friends, and even those on the board who have not had a son like 36 Read more...

;-)....thanks, MWM....I remember that about you, you told people about Pema Chodron and I got one of her books I'm reading-- When things fall apart...and I've been taking lessons for transformative yoga (or restorative)...it's very healing, focuses on meditation mostly but lately, I've been bad...

we were all doing the best we could in situations we had no clue would just keep getting worse...I'm sure we've all heard friends and others tell us 'it's just how teenagers are', 'he'll grow out of it', 'I'm sure it's not as bad as that!'...they don't live inside our walls or serve as the...

Hello all-- I wanted to thank each of you for recommendations you've made to me over the last 3 months...I've read several books recommended by you that were highly enligtening (just finished 'When your adult child breaks your heart'-- thanks COM)....and have found out about resources like...

thanks, ruppertk, I hope so...I'm not sure how to ever accept that we never find reconciliation...just trying to focus on getting through today

wow, MWM...that sounds horrible...how old was gfg36 at the time? I think it's even worse that the psychiatrist just shrugged it off...wow...that's exactly the kind of thing I needed to think about today though because I keep going into these phases where I doubt myself and where I am with difficult child...he...