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Tried to edit the post to add this: Oh! One last thing- I think alot of our kids are narcissists. If you are on social media- check out Synful who does many skits about narcissistic relationships - primarily between 2 in a romantic relationship, but the similarities I see between her...

I was drawn to this site this morning (I haven't posted since 2019!) but wanted to share some information and send good vibes to all of you. Quick Recap: I raised my kids alone, never married, and have two- a 32 yo daughter and a 29 yo son. Son is my chaotic child. I moved 100 miles away...

I apologize in advance for only seeming to come here when I need something- or help, or just someone to tell me it will all be o.k. somehow. It feels so selfish. Quick update: Daughter still doing well. No issues there. Son still who he is. Different day, the same story. His life is both...

I've been crazy busy at work (which isn't really a bad thing for me) and just now going through all these posts. For me, and for what I've seen on these boards- we DO all love our kids. That's what is so so hard about this. We love them and sometimes that means to love them enough to let...

Thank you so much for all the encouragement. I do need to consistently stay here- it does help SO MUCH. The catalyst for THIS feeling THIS time is - my gbabys mother continues to allow the baby to be around him on days NOT included in the court order because crazy as my son his, his son...

I've been a part of this group off and on for about 4 years. You guys have helped me more than I could ever say- Things even out between myself and my son - and I walk away from the encouragement and help for two reasons: 1. I believe there are others who need it more than me, and why...

Update. A few things. Since the 'blowup'- I've not heard one word from my son. Next tuesday it will have been four weeks since I've seen my grandbaby. I'm in Texas, and hurricane (with my job-I'm not in the zone of destruction) has given me a diversion (sad isn't it?)- but it's still sits...

Thank you all for your kind words of support. I'm 12 days in from not seeing my sweet grandbaby- and the further from the 'event' the more manageable it has become. I can't say 'easy' because it isn't, and I do have my moments- I've already cried this morning because I imagine weekends are the...

It's been 10 days since I've seen my grandbaby (longest I've gone was 11 days in October 2015 because the baby's mother was mad at my son and took that out on everyone). I don't feel the urge to throw up anymore, and I'm trying really hard to have faith that the CPS process will play out. I...

My brother (who is 9 years younger than me) is currently the executor of my money in the event of my death. Went to an atty who recommended that I just split out my insurance (through my job) via percentages - because I don't have any assets (currently). So, my daughter gets 55%, My difficult...

I have to tell y'all, I was so proud of myself today- it was a horrible day. An "I'm on the verge of crying any moment" day. An "I've had very little sleep day" and this: my mom and brother (who my son doesn't care anything about) bought b-day gifts for the baby and brought them last weekend...

Thanks Copa- I made the call to the worker and evidently my sweet gbaby is with her sister somewhere other than home (ala no 'supervision' of my son is needed) which means my gbaby is basically with a stranger (to him) in a strange location. Nice. Then - because both my daughter and I have...

He sees it as an attack on HIM. So, I've made the call (as I was instructed to do on Friday in the event they didn't bring the baby) and we can just see what happens. I do worry about what he'll do - like any dog in a corner, they bite. I'm currently outside trying to figure out how to lock...

Gaslighting. It's always OUR fault. You are not to blame in the least. If anything, he should have been reaching out "hey, have y'all gotten any mail from ____________ for me?" to stay on top of it.

Sunday update: Son texted asking about gbaby's birthday gifts. I asked if baby was coming this evening (based on convo with CPS worker on Friday). He says no. In a nutshell: We (my daughter and I) can kiss his ass, we 'turned on him' and 'told on him' and he's not having his son around us...

Saturday update: I can feel myself starting to have some anxiety about what will happen tomorrow. They are supposed to bring the baby to me when she goes to work around 7 p.m.-ish and I don't know how that will happen- who will come? Do I say anything? I so badly want to tell Bonnie (i.e...

I hope he does too Albatross. I really do. I've told CPS and I've told my son that I very much WANT him to be successful. I believe in my heart that he DOES love his baby- but only as much as he's CAPABLE of loving ANYONE - *and* he (based on observation) very much enjoys having the baby...

OMG! Yes! He has said repeatedly (when they have broken up) that he is going to get custody of his son and take him away from his mother. You and what army? Not while I'm living and breathing! Then I was 'defending her' and 'not on his side'. BOY! You don't have a pot to piss in, a window...

Thanks for the responses. It's been a very stressful week- my stomach has hurt all week, I've not slept well...... I followed up with the caseworker today- who shared that regardless of the "you won't see him again!" declaration made by Bonnie and Clyde, they don't have the option- the only...

I empathize. I'm so sorry she said those things- they tend to overlook the fact that they are where they are because of the person they see in the mirror- and instead take all their anger out on us. My son does the same. It's taken me a long time to say to myself that I'm a safe object of his...