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I was drawn to this site this morning (I haven't posted since 2019!) but wanted to share some information and send good vibes to all of you. Quick Recap: I raised my kids alone, never married, and have two- a 32 yo daughter and a 29 yo son. Son is my chaotic child. I moved 100 miles away...

I apologize in advance for only seeming to come here when I need something- or help, or just someone to tell me it will all be o.k. somehow. It feels so selfish. Quick update: Daughter still doing well. No issues there. Son still who he is. Different day, the same story. His life is both...

I've been a part of this group off and on for about 4 years. You guys have helped me more than I could ever say- Things even out between myself and my son - and I walk away from the encouragement and help for two reasons: 1. I believe there are others who need it more than me, and why...

Hey all! I haven't written in a very long time. So much has been going on, and I wish I had walked through some of this fire with you guys to help me along the way- even if just to tell me that it's OK. Brief recap: Son (24) is the child that makes me absolutely weep in frustration, in...

I've been away- trying to take my bits of normalcy as they come and not dwell on it and overthink things. I've become overwhelmed and have 'backslid' in my quest to repeat over and over "my son is an adult who makes decisions- his choices, his consequences". To recap- my son has a 19 month old...

I haven't been around in a while- things have been rocking along fairly drama free- but as we all know, the other shoe always seems to drop. Today's update centers around the fact that as hard as I try- and as much as my "logical" side "gets it"- I have a very hard time dealing with the fact...

Two months. Month one, almost down. WHY WHY WHY did I allow this boy to come and stay with me? Why didn't I listen to my gut instinct tell me NO. There's not one particular thing that has happened, and I know why I let him come here- because he has his baby several nights a week and he needs...

I mean, do you all think there will ever come a time that our difficult ones grow up? Live somewhat normal? I simply cannot fathom spending the rest of MY life always waiting on the other shoe to drop, or walking on eggshells, or making excuses for him, or .... just not being able to 'live'...

So, our 'temporary' situation is going ok. Not horrible like I feared. He's been here two weeks, we've discussed his long term plans - He actually paid back who he owed out of the check he just got- me (shock! I literally was speechless- it's not even CLOSE to what he TRULY owes me, but he...

So. /sigh. My son has not lived with me since February 2014. He has lived with his sister and his exgirlfriend and in his car in that time. To recap: this is the child who had a son in August 2015. CPS has been called (and I just got a letter that no services will be provided to them...

/sigh. Recap: Last summer, I detached. I gave up (or gave in to what I needed to do for my sanity). I stopped contact with my son. DONE. FINISHED. Read the books. Posted here, felt empowered because I knew deep down it was the RIGHT THING TO DO. My daughter commented not long after that...

So. CPS investigation still ongoing. Not sure what is going to come of this, but my gut says nothing. I'm trying really hard to not stress about it because it is what it is and I mean, we've really only just begun this train ride, right? My son. Lord help me there are many strides he has...

I haven't been here in a while (and I feel guilty for coming in my desperate time of need-but I have to do something). Background: my son had a baby with his girlfriend in August. He's the child of mine with many many issues. He met his match in her. Baby is two months old. She is abusive...

So.....to catch up. difficult child son sent me a text the Monday before Xmas to let me know he and the girlfriend were pregnant. Fast forward to now. From August until December- I had probably talked with difficult child no more than 5 times. And of those times, I had to repeat my mantra (that you all here...

Basically, a picture of a positive Pregnancy Test with "Merry Christmas" as the message. Oh joy. I'm still processing- as I have no grandchildren - this would be the first. I have no idea how this will shake out or what a difficult child does when the ultimate bargaining tool (what a horrible way to put...

Well. Hello y'all! So-there have been no real new 'news' around these parts. difficult child still mooching..er...living with his girlfriend. Called me a couple of weeks ago- I was highway driving for the week, and he asked "so, when are you going to meet my girlfriend". Um, what? Of course, my FIRST...

Good evening.....been doing really well, going through the motions of life- trying to not dwell on difficult child. Decided at one point that it is what it is. I guess that's my emotions deciding that not dwelling (and appearing "hard" about it all) is best. Yesterday, got a series of texts from difficult child (who...

I don't know if it's just because I'm tired (from work, from travelling, from worrying about getting this house sold so I can move on with my LIFE, of difficult child) but I've had a crying spell with no provocation. difficult child texted me on Sunday and asked for gas money. I didn't respond. 4 hours later, he...

This letter has been a long time coming, but I have to write it to get it out. I realize that most of what I write won't be anything you will care about or even pretend to. You are 21. You will be 22 in Feb. By this age in my own life, I was pregnant with you. I already had a daughter who...

Haven't been here in a while- life has been busy. My difficult child is living with a girlfriend. We know this (we= me and easy child) based on information my daughter found out on FB. I don't 'stalk' (I'm blocked anyway) but like to keep my finger on the pulse. Anyway, Saturday morning before 8 a.m. my phone...