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:encouragement: Bravo, Done Dad! So many of us have struggled with the courts (as well as our own troubled children) - at times the odds seem to be totally stacked AGAINST us! You have prevailed, and have given some of us much hope for the future. There is no doubt that I (and maybe others on...

Lost - Your pain just vibrates through these pages. Please, PLEASE don't cave in! You are so fortunate to have a wonderful husband, and healthy, "easy" daughter - they need you too. Too often we ALLOW our troubled children to monopolize our every waking moment. What an injustice we do to the...

Neverstopsworry~ The advice from DoneDad and mcdonna are good, sound approaches. Having experienced many similar scenarios, I can also agree that continuing to provide the endless stream of money, will come to no good end. I feel your pain and anguish, and understand your compelling need to...

New Leaf ~ Your thoughtful words just brought me so much comfort! At 69, I'm still working full-time (and maybe that is a blessing in itself) - so I don't have the opportunity to visit this site as often as I'd like. So much of what you just said hit home with me - thank you for sharing your...

Lost in Sadness, ALL of the above messages have been 'spot on', and although tough to absorb - you should nevertheless TRY to embrace some of the well meaning suggestions. Having lived through a similar scenario with my son (who is now 36 and has completely turned his life around from the...

Recoveringenabler, Most days I am 'up and down' - and since I work full-time, that DOES help to direct my mind in different directions. I'm generally 'in trouble emotionally' when things are NOT real busy at work! Can't win, right? However, I am forcing myself to work on DETACHMENT - and it...

Good morning, Recoveringenable! Once again I find myself reading this post that you provided in October 2016 - it contains SO MUCH helpful advice - I think it would also help others on this Forum who experience the same struggles! Reinforcing these POSITIVE thoughts can only help us to survive...

Wisernow - Thank you! Very wise words that I will certainly cherish and begin to act on. You've definitely presented me with a different perspective - and I like it! Thank you again. Warm wishes to you on your journey xo

Amethys - I am so, sooo sorry that you are enduring this unwelcome suffering. It seems that no matter what we do - give them money, DON'T give them money, give them advice about boyfriends, DON'T give them advice about boyfriends - we're damned if we do and damned if we don't! It is totally...

Oh, Acacia - my heart aches for you! If only our daughters had an inkling of the pain that they inflict on us!!! I'm sure you feel that there are many days, and hours, where you feel you just "can't take anymore!" But....somehow, we do and we keep on "doing" and "doing". It is such a vicious...

It's been many months since I've shared with all of you regarding my 31-yr old daughter (Borderline (BPD)). As of 11/01/16, I began working a full-time job (out of financial necessity), and endure a ridiculous long commute everyday as well. I'm almost 70 - and I can't believe I continue to ALLOW my...

Thank you so much, Amann, for your comments. My heart aches for you and your 'loss' - being unable to interact with our grandchildren is so terribly cruel. My daughter is on her 'roller coaster' at the moment - and because she relies on me for 'babysitting' (she continues to lose jobs, and...

Thank you, McDonna! I genuinely appreciate all your words of encouragement...they will sustain me during the days to come!!! I am forever grateful for having found this wonderful site! Warmest wishes xo

Recoveringenabler: I've been away from this site for several days now....busy connecting with a therapist, friends, and my own physician. Your information is just astounding!!! I truly appreciate all the assistance, and I will definitely follow through with many of our suggestions. One of my...

Thank you very much, "Recoveringenabler" - what an amazing article, full of really positive and insightful information, and so much to absorb. Along with all the other comments, I will definitely keep this to refer to as very positive reinforcement. Everyone's input is already helping me...

Thank you, "McDonna" - I am beyond grateful for the wonderful response I have received via this 'thread'! Everyone's comments are so supportive and inspiring - I only hope that one day, very soon, I'll be able to provide similar words/phrases of support - you are ALL wonderful for reaching out...

Thank you, "SomewhereOutThere" - such great information and advice. You, along with others on this post, are adding to the strength I need to develop, and soon! The more I hear, the more I realize that I'm NOT going crazy, and that 'baby steps' are definitely in order. I'm going to continue...

Thank you so much, Jetsam! You are very perceptive and I truly appreciate your empathy. I've often heard other adults remark that they too were 'afraid' that their daughters might 'cut them off' from contact with grandchildren. I never imagined I would be experiencing this! The pain is so...

My heart is aching and breaking! My daughter is acting out so much, scheduling all sorts of activities & events this month where I would normally be included. But the worst of it is, she is obviously making alternate plans for someone to watch my grandson (6 yrs old), and usually I am the one...

Thank you, Jetsam.....your words really hit home! It is SOooooo difficult when the crazy rollercoaster ride is further complicated by a little innocent!!! I will definitely work at being stronger. It is definitely really hard when it comes to being separated from my little grandson. I now...