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  1. Nessie

    Bad choices

    22 year old female daughter has started seeing an ex boyfriend who is nothing but trouble - 20 years older, drug dealer, narcissistic and really not a nice person at all. My whole family is devastated and I told her if she wants to see him she has to move out. She hasn’t been home this weekend...
  2. Nessie

    From the heart

    my son has recently been sentenced to 3 years in prison, here are my thoughts 1. I’m glad for the break, so needed it. I hear sirens and I know it’s not him. 2. I’m ok with going home, this is new, I’ve feared going home for so long 3. Everyone is safe and well, in his worst anyone could of...
  3. Nessie

    Detox in prison

    my son has now been in prison for 10 days and is being detoxed from diazepam and dihydrocodiene, not pretty. Physically, he looks very well but mentally his memory is shocking. He will. All me in the morning and then again in the night and say the exact things with no recollection what so ever...
  4. Nessie

    This is new

    My son was sentenced to 3 years in prison last Monday, likely he will serve 1 year as full parole opportunities were passed. I miss him, I’m relieved, I’m devastated, I’m embarrassed, I’m really sad. Very hard to deal with all of these feelings. My hope is he will get clean and maybe start to...
  5. Nessie

    Here we go again

    New court date the end of February! This is so frustrating as I feel like my life is on hold. Lawyer told my son if he used the time constructively and improved himself then she would be able to provide a better case for a shorter sentence, so far he has done nothing. This past weekend he has...
  6. Nessie

    Nothing Changes

    Son is now back living at home, I use the term home sadly as it doesn’t feel that way. He is due back at the police station on Wednesday and should get a court date. He will likely receive a custodial sentence of three years. I hate that this is my best option. My whole life feels fraudulent at...
  7. Nessie

    Just sad

    My son is back in our home because he has nowhere else to go. I feel sorry for him, love him and want him to get better but none of us are happy. He is due back to the police station in 3 weeks to find out what he is being charged with- this will likely carry a custodial sentence. It’s all very...
  8. Nessie

    Reality check

    My son has been bailed until the end of November but he has to sign a legal form to say he has declined to release the pass code for his mobile to the police, this needs to be done by Wednesday. He was arrested a month ago but has yet to seek any legal advice and just seems to be burying his...
  9. Nessie

    Feeling strong today

    As previously posted my 21 year old son is currently living with my parents whilst he awaits court and sentencing for controlled substances. He has mental health issues, has attempted and continues to threaten suicide. This last month has been a nightmare with his ups and downs and I am not even...
  10. Nessie

    Social media

    It is a punch in the stomach when you think everything is running in the right direction and you read something that brings reality up close and personal. I completely admire everyone here for all they have to endure. Is it best to block them? Or like me, use social media to ensure their well...
  11. Nessie

    Relationship survival

    My son continues to be living with my parents whilst waiting to attend court for possession of controlled substances and probable intent to supply. He is complying with an out patient detox and rehab programme and does look much better then he did three weeks ago. I have had apologies as has my...
  12. Nessie

    Turmoil

    To summarise- son got arrested three days ago for possession of controlled substances with the intent to supply. This is definitely a custodial sentence, released on bail...aahhhhh. Thrown out of his flat so had no choice but to bring him home. This was after 3 hours in the emergency department...
  13. Nessie

    Advice please

    I am picking up my son for a few hours tomorrow and would very much like to avoid the drama these meetings usually end in, I really do not have the strength. What I want to ensure is that he knows I care and am interested in his life but also that I can no longer give him money and be...
  14. Nessie

    Son off the radar

    Not responding to anything! Even my daughter who has always been one of his best friends. I feel sick! Ive been here before. I've had a few drinks and now all my thoughts are dark x I am not religious but wish I had the strength.
  15. Nessie

    Where and when does it end?

    My son has been moved out now for five months and his life has taken a turn for the worse. He looks awful (clearly using something) and refusing to get help for depression or whatever mental illness that is destroying us all. Initially, he improved and I thought he might find some happiness. He...
  16. Nessie

    update

    So it is nearly a month since my son moved out and I still can't seem to feel better. The house is a much nicer place to be but every time I think I am doing ok I'm suddenly crying, I am starting to think things will never be good for me again and I really hate feeling so sorry for myself. We...
  17. Nessie

    Devastated

    Tonight I helped my 20 year old son to move to his own place and although I know it had to happen for the sake of my family I feel completely devastated and heartbroken. He has always been a challenge with a history of behaviour similar to many other stories here. Life has been just happening...
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