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  1. newstart

    Climbing into April

    April is coming up soon. Allergies are in full swing. Tomorrow my husband's relative will be here for 5 days. The plans I made for my solo cruise are not going to work out, the ship was sold out. I read and re read all the comments on my last post. New Leaf, you wrote about your toxic father in...
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    Soon it will be March

    I am slowly digging my heart out of the mess around here since around New Years Eve. We all went to a party on New Years Eve, daughter included. It was a fancy party. Our daughter wanted to come, the guy she was seeing was out of the country. I think he just told her that, just my gut feeling. I...
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    Trading one mess for another

    Adult daughter age 41 has some improvements and some set backs but the set backs are not as harsh or deep as in years past. She is still odd, moody but can get a grip with it better. Her terrible 'off' times are when a man is involved in her life. It really knocks her completely out. The creepy...
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    Getting from point A-B

    My daughter's creepy boyfriend is gone all the way (I think). I have not seen any of his things over at my daughters house and she is/was staying somewhat on track. I believe she is now dating a new person. This makes me nervous for several reasons. In the past when the guy finds out she lies...
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    Feeling peace in your soul

    Even though I don't post that often I still think and worry about the rest of you, I know your stories and I have felt them. I would love to hear a short update on your life. When I mention anything good my daughter does, just know that the other shoe drops and we are back to square one, there...
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    Lunar Eclipse and my cat

    Hello and thank you all for past encouragement and advice. My 40 year old daughter does ok at times and then not ok. She is still off/on with toxic boyfriend now age 47. How can a couple be that age and still do so many immature things?.. It is horrible. My daughter has had a few ok months...
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    Soon it will be Easter

    I am very grateful for your support and advice for several years now. I read and take note and pray for you. It has been a long and winding road for sure. My 40 year old daughter is in a perpetual off & on toxic relationship that does not seem to fizzle out. When they break up she seems to move...
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    Valentines Day

    Valentines Day tomorrow can be beautiful day for many and a sad day for many. We spent the day with our daughter. She cooked a wonderful roast, then made a sweet potato dish for desert, it was very good. She is spending a lot of time with a new girl friend and has morphed into that girls...
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    Happy New Year 2022

    My 39 year old daughter continues to act weird. She went through another major breakup, this is probably number 20 with the same guy, the type of breakups to where she kicks her boyfriend out, throws away or sells all of his stuff that he leaves behind at her house and then just like that he is...
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    September

    Lying allows a person to establish perceived control over a situation by manipulating it. It's a defense mechanism that (seemingly) prevents them from being vulnerable, that is, to not open up and reveal their true self to another person. My 39 year old daughter has quit her job and is making...
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    Duping delight.

    Duping delight occurs when successful liars get away with a lie and become delighted by their accomplishment. Each time we spend time with our daughter we get to experience several 'duping delight' experiences. Last week she told us she trimmed the trees at our rent house, she went into detail...
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    Swimming

    We have had some ok times with our daughter who is now 39. She has lost a few pounds and says she feels better. My daughter and I spent an ok day at the gym, her talking politics non stop, I believe this is her way to hide what is really going on in her life. She gets a call from her worthless...
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    Onions

    I was sick with allergies and an eye infection, I was put on antibiotics. My daughter brings over some homemade soup. She said she made it especially for me without onions, if I eat onions they keep me up all night. I ate the soup and it had some onion powder in it and kept me up all night...
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    Snow & Ice

    We have been covered in snow and ice, no power, no water, broken pipes and very cold. My daughter is concerned for our safety. She calls every 4 hours to make sure we are ok. She asks us to come to her home, she has power and water, we say thank you but no thank you. My daughter's toxic...
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    New York, New York

    Many years ago I went to a play, the play was disorganized and the actors forgot their lines the music was even off and everything went crazy. I remember one woman in the audience stood up and started singing 'New York, New York' as loud as she could because she could not take the mess that was...
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    Happy New Year 2021

    I want to wish everyone a happy and more peaceful year. I have been wanting to make a post but my stuff is pale compared to Tishthedish losing her husband to COVID. I am so sad to read such news. Since my husband is now retired, he is getting to see our daughter's behavior more clearly. I have...
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    Grateful and thank you.

    Thank you to those that have offer direction and prayer, some of you have been on this journey longer than I have and your guidance has been heard, appreciated and practiced. I feel grateful for you and this site. I've been on a long winding journey with my 38 year old daughter. When I write...
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    Sunday

    My daughter came over today. She seems to want to spend Sunday afternoons with us. I hugged her and she hugged me back. She looked good and lost a few pounds.. I looked straight into her eyes and they looked clear and like she was having a more balanced day. I could tell in her tone and body...
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    Thanksgiving will be here soon.

    Things are still odd here. A bit better, more peaceful on somedays but odd and weird. It gives my daughter peace if she pretends like she is not with her boyfriend. She knows I think the both of them together is about as toxic as a relationship can get so I do not mention the boyfriends name and...
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    Lunch

    We met our daughter for lunch yesterday. She came to my house and gave me a genuine hug. I hugged her back. My daughter looks different, she tells me she does not dye her hair yet it is obviously dyed. I let that go. Then she tells me her schedule, bits and pieces in there that maybe true, I...
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