Hi, I am new to this type of thing. I have never had to search for answers about my children before. I have a daughter who is grown but has never given me any trouble. So with everything going on with my 16 year old son I am completely lost. About a month ago my son was starting to not come home at night. His mother and I are divorced and he lives with her but we both live with in a mile of each other. So he is with me in the evenings and weekends etc. During the past month he was staying out all night. Sneaking out of the house after his mom went to bed, multiple times. It ended up that after pressing him he had been sneaking out to be with a 30 year old woman. In 1 months time he went from normal teenage complaints and actions to being completely lost. Didn't want to tell us where he was. Why he wasn't coming home etc. She had called him out of school a number of times and convinced him to stay home with her during the day as she doesn't work for some reason. This grown "woman" had convinced him that he didn't need his parents and did not need to tell them where he was. She told him she would help him emancipate from us so they would be able to be together and get married. After finding all these things out we went to the police. He admitted everything because I feel like he had to get things off his chest. This woman has been arrested and is in a pretty bad spot because of how she manipulated a young teen to completely leave his entire life behind so they could be together. Obviously he is very angry at us for getting him to confess but I told him, "if it was something that only involved sex with this woman we could have dealt with it differently but she convinced you to leave your home multiple times in the middle of the night. Not go to school or football practices, sit around the house smoking weed and telling you that she would take care of you and pay for an emancipation". He is slowly understanding I think but now he is having issues with going to school. He has quit football and everything because he has it now in his head it's none of those things are important. This "woman" completely screwed his head up for her own sick feelings. After everything came out the police informed us this house was a huge party house for teenagers. She was supplying them with weed and pills. There was some very shady things going on there besides the manipulation of my boy. Needless to say I am struggling to get him to start thinking again about his future. It's not easy because he is still not over her. We have him in counseling and have full restraining orders against her for the school and him. This is a very tough situation for me trying to get him back on track. He is convinced now that he needs to quit school and work because he's old enough now. Even though not one of his friends has those thoughts. So that tells me he is still caught up in her lies and manipulation. That's not even taking into account of when she gets out on bail (they put a huge bail on her) she will probably try to contact him and all the work over the past few weeks will start fresh Im afraid.