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22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with -- PART 2
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<blockquote data-quote="MrMike" data-source="post: 607364" data-attributes="member: 16687"><p>Well, made it past the first part of this saga with my difficult child ... kicking him out, not letting him back in, waiting for the light bulb in his brain to somehow go on and "get it". Dealing with the report from a housemate that he was not doing well there. He has been ooth (out of the house) for about two weeks now. Last night he texted me asking if he can come home for a few days (which means he wants to come back home for good). </p><p></p><p>Following the advice of my counselor, I did not reply. I am waiting for him to text again, to which I will not reply. The third time he texts, I am going to simply reply with the question ... "Why is it going to be any different this time <my difficult child's name>?". I will ask him to go off and think about that for awhile. I mean, until he really gets that right, what's the point of letting him come back home? It will just end with us kicking him out again, for a longer period of time than the previous time. I will tell him that too, that if he comes back before he is ready (i.e. before he gets it), when he gets kicked out again, he will have to wait longer the next time before he can "try again", as it's obvious that the last time he was ooth, it was not long enough for him to learn what he needed to learn. </p><p></p><p>Of course, this is blind optimism on my part, thinking that I can "train" him to act differently. I suspect he will continue to think and act as he always has, not accepting responsibility for his bad behavior, and not understanding why we are demanding that he follow rules. But, this is all I've got to go on. This is my only weapon against him coming home and ruling our house again. </p><p></p><p>Wish me luck, or pray for a miracle.</p><p></p><p>I'll keep you posted on how this develops ...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MrMike, post: 607364, member: 16687"] Well, made it past the first part of this saga with my difficult child ... kicking him out, not letting him back in, waiting for the light bulb in his brain to somehow go on and "get it". Dealing with the report from a housemate that he was not doing well there. He has been ooth (out of the house) for about two weeks now. Last night he texted me asking if he can come home for a few days (which means he wants to come back home for good). Following the advice of my counselor, I did not reply. I am waiting for him to text again, to which I will not reply. The third time he texts, I am going to simply reply with the question ... "Why is it going to be any different this time <my difficult child's name>?". I will ask him to go off and think about that for awhile. I mean, until he really gets that right, what's the point of letting him come back home? It will just end with us kicking him out again, for a longer period of time than the previous time. I will tell him that too, that if he comes back before he is ready (i.e. before he gets it), when he gets kicked out again, he will have to wait longer the next time before he can "try again", as it's obvious that the last time he was ooth, it was not long enough for him to learn what he needed to learn. Of course, this is blind optimism on my part, thinking that I can "train" him to act differently. I suspect he will continue to think and act as he always has, not accepting responsibility for his bad behavior, and not understanding why we are demanding that he follow rules. But, this is all I've got to go on. This is my only weapon against him coming home and ruling our house again. Wish me luck, or pray for a miracle. I'll keep you posted on how this develops ... [/QUOTE]
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