Hello,
I have been following along for a long time. I can’t tell you all how your stories and wisdom have helped me. I believe it is time for me to open up and share. I have a 22 year old son that has been diagnosed with ADHD (at age 7) and Bipolar 1(at age 15). He has a low average IQ. He has been to rehab twice for heavy pot use. The first time he was trying to get away from people in town that were after him. He was never really serious about recovery. He was kicked out after 4 months after they discovered him and some other guys were getting high on K2. The second time he was in rehab was because he was arrested for driving on a suspended license and a felony charge of marijuana. He was released on bond to go to a rehab. He lasted there about 3 and a half months. He was kicked out after leaving the program and smoking pot. We kicked him out at the age of 18 because of the pot use and extreme anger. He has previously lived in his car and brief periods of being homeless but able to find couches to sleep on. My son has totaled 3 cars. I have really struggled with helping/enabling him. He has not kept a job for more than 5 weeks. I struggle with knowing what he is capable of versus what he refuses to do. I tried to get a neuropsychological exam on him a couple of years ago but they would not test him unless he passed a drug test. That wasn’t going to happen. He is currently staying at a friends apartment but the friend got an eviction notice and has to be out of the apartment February 1st. My son is not working. Of course now he is stressing out about where he is going to go. He is also on probation and has not contacted the probation officer since he was kicked out of rehab and came back to the state where we live. I know with him not working, refusing to call probation officer and getting kicked out of rehab I should not financially help him. It is just so hard to see him struggle so much with life. Sorry so long...trying to keep it brief but so much as happened!
I have been following along for a long time. I can’t tell you all how your stories and wisdom have helped me. I believe it is time for me to open up and share. I have a 22 year old son that has been diagnosed with ADHD (at age 7) and Bipolar 1(at age 15). He has a low average IQ. He has been to rehab twice for heavy pot use. The first time he was trying to get away from people in town that were after him. He was never really serious about recovery. He was kicked out after 4 months after they discovered him and some other guys were getting high on K2. The second time he was in rehab was because he was arrested for driving on a suspended license and a felony charge of marijuana. He was released on bond to go to a rehab. He lasted there about 3 and a half months. He was kicked out after leaving the program and smoking pot. We kicked him out at the age of 18 because of the pot use and extreme anger. He has previously lived in his car and brief periods of being homeless but able to find couches to sleep on. My son has totaled 3 cars. I have really struggled with helping/enabling him. He has not kept a job for more than 5 weeks. I struggle with knowing what he is capable of versus what he refuses to do. I tried to get a neuropsychological exam on him a couple of years ago but they would not test him unless he passed a drug test. That wasn’t going to happen. He is currently staying at a friends apartment but the friend got an eviction notice and has to be out of the apartment February 1st. My son is not working. Of course now he is stressing out about where he is going to go. He is also on probation and has not contacted the probation officer since he was kicked out of rehab and came back to the state where we live. I know with him not working, refusing to call probation officer and getting kicked out of rehab I should not financially help him. It is just so hard to see him struggle so much with life. Sorry so long...trying to keep it brief but so much as happened!