I would like to get feedback on something I observed a parent of a Difficult Child child do that ended up getting some improvement for him. But not without much sacrifice on her part. Her son was in his mid 20s. Smoked pot a lot. Always in trouble and doing dumb things. Hanging out with bad people. Wouldn’t work. She got him a condo near her home. Put a lot of rules attached to it. No drugs or drinking. Everyone out by midnight. No sleepovers without permission. She had a key and arbitrarily checked up on him every few days. He broke the rules constantly at first, but after several months this improved. Believe me...he still broke them. But not constantly. He couldn’t or wouldn’t work. She gave him an allowance. Of course it wasn’t enough and if she gave him more money, he bought pot with it. She gave him food money, but nine times out of ten she went food shopping with him and only rarely let him do it on his own. This went on for at least a year. There was a non profit place near the condo. She arranged for him to volunteer PT there. He worked 15-20 hours a week. For the most part, he liked it. He would get his hours signed and she would pay him out of her own pocket $5 an hour for those hours. He did this for at least a year. He started to like having money he earned on his own. He applied to work at the food store and got a good recommendation from the volunteer place. He was hired and works 20- 30 hours a week and minimum wage is over $8 ...so it is a much better deal for him. This has been going on a few years. Last I heard, she is still checking up on him and he still messes up...but it’s a little less as he is out of the condo more often and has some better friends. At some point, she had him start paying for his own electricity and some misc. expenses. Last I heard he is trying to get full time employment at the food store. It’s not ideal and she still puts more work / effort than should be needed for an adult child. I think he is about 29 now. It’s tiring just thinking about it. Right? And one obviously has to be well off to do such a thing. Any thoughts?