Someone sent me this message via FB. I don't believe this person has any idea of the current distress we are under with our adopted adult child. I recall learning in college that there is a unique and interesting relationship between mother and baby in utero. For example, often the baby will like the same foods the mom likes.
I couldn’t cut and paste it…so I’ll retype the first paragraph snd add some pieces of information. It’s called “Heartstrings.” A more intense search will likely find it. Unclear why it was sent to me. But in many of the cases here…and many I have heard about over the years…it is uncanny how the adopted children NO matter how much intervention …even colossal intervention and loving and helping parents……that adopted child when they become an adult ends up very much like the birth parent…maybe particularly the mother. Then there are the attachment issues…This sort of explains it.
From Heartstrings
“When pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mother’s bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal maternal microchimerism.”
More tidbits
*41 weeks of back and forth interchange
*In some cases fetal cells can help injuries to the mom
*In some cases mother’s bodies can help the baby
*Studies have shown fetus cells inside mother’s brain 18 years after she has given birth
*Some mom’s report intuitively feeling their child even when they are not there. Might it also go the other way?
Just some food for thought. A friend suggested to me that on top of mental illness, what we might be seeing are pregnancies wrought with periodic drug snd alcohol abuse, bad behaviors, anger, fighting, homelessness, poor nutrition, fear…an entire host of horrors.
Perhaps in the “old days” when unwed mothers were sent to convents…it was actually safer for those unborn babies. More calm, little to no drug abuse, regular and nutritious meals etc.
So on top of possible , perhaps likely mental illness…the unborn child might also be subjected to an untold amount of prenatal injuries and trust me..these moms won’t be inclined to mention any of this and the adoption agencies as well. Silence.
Again…food for thought.
I couldn’t cut and paste it…so I’ll retype the first paragraph snd add some pieces of information. It’s called “Heartstrings.” A more intense search will likely find it. Unclear why it was sent to me. But in many of the cases here…and many I have heard about over the years…it is uncanny how the adopted children NO matter how much intervention …even colossal intervention and loving and helping parents……that adopted child when they become an adult ends up very much like the birth parent…maybe particularly the mother. Then there are the attachment issues…This sort of explains it.
From Heartstrings
“When pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mother’s bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal maternal microchimerism.”
More tidbits
*41 weeks of back and forth interchange
*In some cases fetal cells can help injuries to the mom
*In some cases mother’s bodies can help the baby
*Studies have shown fetus cells inside mother’s brain 18 years after she has given birth
*Some mom’s report intuitively feeling their child even when they are not there. Might it also go the other way?
Just some food for thought. A friend suggested to me that on top of mental illness, what we might be seeing are pregnancies wrought with periodic drug snd alcohol abuse, bad behaviors, anger, fighting, homelessness, poor nutrition, fear…an entire host of horrors.
Perhaps in the “old days” when unwed mothers were sent to convents…it was actually safer for those unborn babies. More calm, little to no drug abuse, regular and nutritious meals etc.
So on top of possible , perhaps likely mental illness…the unborn child might also be subjected to an untold amount of prenatal injuries and trust me..these moms won’t be inclined to mention any of this and the adoption agencies as well. Silence.
Again…food for thought.