Im just curious how you feel. I would not. No matter how much we did to show Kay we loved her, I don't think she ever felt she was really a part of the family. Yet I loved her as though Id given birth to her. I get it on her part,but then again I don't. Just my thoughts. She is hoping to one day locate her birth family. This should not hurt me. Its normal. But it does hurt. Maybe it would not hurt if we were close.