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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 754575" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>I can't get my quote function to work on my home computer sometimes so I copied and pasted these things: </p><p><em></em></p><p><em>"<strong>Acacia, I can so relate to your feelings. So far I only have one of my three off the rails, but I feel every bit as much a failure as you do. So I completely understand and empathize, but neither of us should feel that way. Our children are adults. We did the best we could. We loved them and provided for them. We nurtured them and gave them everything that was in our power to give. We did not abandon them, abuse them or neglect them. We have gone above and beyond what parents of "normal" kids have to. We have cried and begged and prayed for them.</strong></em><strong> <em>We have made sacrifices. And still they are who they are. You are not a failure. You deserve better. We all do." </em></strong></p><p></p><p><u>This needs to be my mantra when I feel like a failure as a parent. </u></p><p></p><p>Blindsided said: <a href="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/goto/post?id=754547#post-754547" target="_blank">↑</a></p><p><em>"She said, it seems we all think of May as a child, but in truth, she is a grown middle aged woman and we should treat and react to her as such.</em></p><p><em>Yes, I go to the hurt child inside of my adult children even as they are behaving as unkind, irresponsible adults. I can have compassion, but I need to have as much for myself."</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><u>I tend to do this with both my adult kids but especially with Josh. I wonder if I will ever stop doing this. It makes it harder to disengage. </u></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 754575, member: 22597"] I can't get my quote function to work on my home computer sometimes so I copied and pasted these things: [I] "[B]Acacia, I can so relate to your feelings. So far I only have one of my three off the rails, but I feel every bit as much a failure as you do. So I completely understand and empathize, but neither of us should feel that way. Our children are adults. We did the best we could. We loved them and provided for them. We nurtured them and gave them everything that was in our power to give. We did not abandon them, abuse them or neglect them. We have gone above and beyond what parents of "normal" kids have to. We have cried and begged and prayed for them.[/B][/I][B] [I]We have made sacrifices. And still they are who they are. You are not a failure. You deserve better. We all do." [/I][/B] [U]This needs to be my mantra when I feel like a failure as a parent. [/U] Blindsided said: [URL='https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/goto/post?id=754547#post-754547']↑[/URL] [I]"She said, it seems we all think of May as a child, but in truth, she is a grown middle aged woman and we should treat and react to her as such. Yes, I go to the hurt child inside of my adult children even as they are behaving as unkind, irresponsible adults. I can have compassion, but I need to have as much for myself." [/I] [U]I tend to do this with both my adult kids but especially with Josh. I wonder if I will ever stop doing this. It makes it harder to disengage. [/U] [/QUOTE]
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