I haven't been on for a while as have been very busy and a lot going on with me. Just to update everyone. I have a 25 year old son who has is severely ADD, has some mental health issues and is on and off meth. He has been locked up more times than I can count going to prison 2 times. He can be a very sweet kid but does not learn from his mistakes. The situation now is he has lost his job and got arrested because meth was found in his work car. He gets jobs quickly but has NEVER had a job more than 6 weeks. Loses them for a variety of reasons I would imagine related to the drug usage and behaviors related to that. Also is not on time and totally disorganized. He bailed himself out but called me for money to get back to where he was living (with his birthmother). I did send it to him and I know I shouldn't have. HIs situation is now that he is living at his birthmother's and is suppose to start training for a job tomorrow. I did send him a little money to get to training but not what he asked for. He just text me asking if he can come home. I was shocked, I knew then that something happened with birthmother. (She is a mess also no job,etc.) I text him that he can't come home now as he has no transportation, no job here and that we love him but he has to figure this out on his own. He called said birthmother is going to kick him out, and needs a place to stay until he can start another job. He said he has not used in 9 days and is not going to use again (yeah right) I haven't said much to him about the drug usage. I do not know why really except I do not want him to go off on me. I did say something about it when he told me he lost his job and why that he should go to rehab and he said he needed to work to get money to pay an attorney to get out of drug charge. I said that you are going to have more problems if you start using again. He will only be on our insurance for another 5 months so he needs to do it now. I know I should have said something about it when he wanted to come home but I didn't. He has been quite a bit better in the last year or so about going crazy on me when I tell him no but he still scares me some. He asked me why he can't come home and I said I already told him . He said so you aren't going to tell me and I said no and he hung up. He was just going to argue with me. He continually says that he is about ready to give up. I keep sending him money which I know is just enabling him but he is basically homeless and now doesn't even have clothes as they were in the car that got impounded in another state. I am just so sad . I don't want to see him homeless but I can't fix the problem for him, God know I have tried. I just need to know if I am doing to right thing by not letting him come to live with us and giving or not giving him money.