So son has been doing pretty well for a year since he's been home. No pills (benzos were his vice) and some lite beer drinking. Some weed outside our home but that has pretty much stopped due to job search. Has been pretty much working non stop and tried his hand at welding school but did not like it. Is now working part time at Dunkin Donuts close to home and signed up for 2 years of college in January for computer networking. He feels he is above that job since he is 24 but it is what it is. I have had a bad feeling about his drinking on and off but always thought it was just my PTSD and maybe I was worrying for nothing but I did see an increase. My husband was a heavy beer drinker when he was in his 20's and he's fine and I am the type that always draws on everything so I can analyze the hell out of it. It's his history. Son is very bored with only working part time waiting for school to start. He has not made any friends and is still communicating on line with ex girlfriend who I think is a nasty person. She is not allowed in our home any longer after she went nuts when he broke up with her. His reasoning is that "she is better than not having anyone to talk to". Maybe at times but long term she is not. He knows this. Last night he was in his room and drinking heavily. We both confronted him knowing there is not much point in talking a lot when he is drunk. He feels better talking to me about things than his dad. We both discussed him not being able to live with us if he is going to behave this way. He later said that he needs help and would like to get on something for depression and anxiety so he does not drink and self medicate. It was VERY upsetting to us to say the least. Been there/done that. Today he was sick and did not go to work. Big surprise. He is going to the ER to see if he can get something to start taking for depression. It is impossible to get in to see a psychiatrist here for months so this is the best way. He also agreed to go to a church support group on Sunday evenings starting this weekend. If he does both hopefully things will not deteriorate further. We do have to figure out next steps if he continues on this path but I am glad that he may realize that he has some type of imbalance but who knows.