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Anyone ever had a family member in a group home setting?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758979" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>What most of us learn after we come to this site (often it takes years, like in my own case) is that we have almost no control over the adult children who have carried us to this point. Your friend is entering a reality, a lifestyle, a history, and a future over which he will be powerless to change. That is the reality, I am sad to say. There are people with the strength and heart to take on impossible situations, able to support people like this mother bear what she has to bear. In my own life, I had such a partner, for a time, who helped me carry what I could not bear alone. But such people are uncommon. </p><p></p><p>But the thing I have come to believe is that people have to come to this realization themselves. Your friend himself must live this situation and work it through. </p><p></p><p>However much we can see from the outside looking in that this mother should or could be doing differently, for herself, her child, and for your friend, she herself must come to this realization. In my own experience, this happens slowly, with difficulty, and often, not at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758979, member: 18958"] What most of us learn after we come to this site (often it takes years, like in my own case) is that we have almost no control over the adult children who have carried us to this point. Your friend is entering a reality, a lifestyle, a history, and a future over which he will be powerless to change. That is the reality, I am sad to say. There are people with the strength and heart to take on impossible situations, able to support people like this mother bear what she has to bear. In my own life, I had such a partner, for a time, who helped me carry what I could not bear alone. But such people are uncommon. But the thing I have come to believe is that people have to come to this realization themselves. Your friend himself must live this situation and work it through. However much we can see from the outside looking in that this mother should or could be doing differently, for herself, her child, and for your friend, she herself must come to this realization. In my own experience, this happens slowly, with difficulty, and often, not at all. [/QUOTE]
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