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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 756547" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Suboxone is used to treat opioid addiction. It's akin to heroin addicts using methadone to get off heroin. It's not a solution as a drug is a drug is a drug. Your son and his girlfriend who use Xanax and possibly other pills are also in active addiction. Your bill paying is enabling their disease. You did not cause this. You cannot cure it. You cannot control it. Your situation will not change unless you change. The only control you have is over yourself: your thoughts, feelings, and actions. </p><p></p><p>Anything your children tell you in terms of being a narcissist or whatever is only a projection of their own selves onto you. Addicts by definition are narcissists. Secondly, addiction is a mental health disease. They are sick. This illness causes cognitive distortions. Thirdly, anyone who uses drugs is not in their right mind, because the drugs imbalance brain chemicals and take over their thinking. All an addict thinks about is where to get the next fix. And they will say and do whatever it takes to get it. One is too many and 1000 is never enough. It is self will run riot. The addiction rules their lives and their brains including abuse of their own Mother. </p><p></p><p>The way I see it, you cannot take anything that comes out of their mouths seriously. See a neon sign across their foreheads that says "sick". You have to decide whether you are going to allow yourself to continue to be the collateral damage of their addiction. </p><p></p><p>I don't know what exactly I would do in your situation, but I think I would need to create a living space for myself where I have serenity. I might look for a 1 BR apartment for myself that is really nice , tell my son I am moving and he is not coming with me as the place is too small. </p><p></p><p>Protect yourself!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 756547, member: 24254"] Suboxone is used to treat opioid addiction. It's akin to heroin addicts using methadone to get off heroin. It's not a solution as a drug is a drug is a drug. Your son and his girlfriend who use Xanax and possibly other pills are also in active addiction. Your bill paying is enabling their disease. You did not cause this. You cannot cure it. You cannot control it. Your situation will not change unless you change. The only control you have is over yourself: your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Anything your children tell you in terms of being a narcissist or whatever is only a projection of their own selves onto you. Addicts by definition are narcissists. Secondly, addiction is a mental health disease. They are sick. This illness causes cognitive distortions. Thirdly, anyone who uses drugs is not in their right mind, because the drugs imbalance brain chemicals and take over their thinking. All an addict thinks about is where to get the next fix. And they will say and do whatever it takes to get it. One is too many and 1000 is never enough. It is self will run riot. The addiction rules their lives and their brains including abuse of their own Mother. The way I see it, you cannot take anything that comes out of their mouths seriously. See a neon sign across their foreheads that says "sick". You have to decide whether you are going to allow yourself to continue to be the collateral damage of their addiction. I don't know what exactly I would do in your situation, but I think I would need to create a living space for myself where I have serenity. I might look for a 1 BR apartment for myself that is really nice , tell my son I am moving and he is not coming with me as the place is too small. Protect yourself! [/QUOTE]
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