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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 598418" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>CJ, welcome back. I just wanted to say I think you've received excellent advice. It may help you to read the article at the bottom of my post on detachment. What helped me most was getting into a codependency group that went on for a year, it was through a large HMO in their Substance Abuse program. Even though my daughter is not a substance abuser, all the tools and support I received fit and it was not only invaluable, it got me to a place of sanity and acceptance. I actually ended up in a group with other parents of kids with mental and emotional issues and that was the greatest gift of all.</p><p></p><p>The bottom line in my opinion is to begin focusing on YOU. Get into therapy. Explore NAMI. Find a parent group. You've been dealing with this for so long and now with a baby involved it is so easy to forget that we have needs and desires as well. I believe the way through all the pain of this is to get help to nurture yourself, put yourself first, take care of YOU. After that, you can make good solid choices as to what to do about your daughter and the baby when you have a full tank of self care going and have learned to detach somewhat and accept what is. </p><p></p><p>I feel for you CJ, this is one tough path you find yourself on, but with the right support for yourself, learning to put yourself first and focusing on YOU, you<strong> will </strong>get through this and get your life back. Sending you gentle hugs and wishes for peace............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 598418, member: 13542"] CJ, welcome back. I just wanted to say I think you've received excellent advice. It may help you to read the article at the bottom of my post on detachment. What helped me most was getting into a codependency group that went on for a year, it was through a large HMO in their Substance Abuse program. Even though my daughter is not a substance abuser, all the tools and support I received fit and it was not only invaluable, it got me to a place of sanity and acceptance. I actually ended up in a group with other parents of kids with mental and emotional issues and that was the greatest gift of all. The bottom line in my opinion is to begin focusing on YOU. Get into therapy. Explore NAMI. Find a parent group. You've been dealing with this for so long and now with a baby involved it is so easy to forget that we have needs and desires as well. I believe the way through all the pain of this is to get help to nurture yourself, put yourself first, take care of YOU. After that, you can make good solid choices as to what to do about your daughter and the baby when you have a full tank of self care going and have learned to detach somewhat and accept what is. I feel for you CJ, this is one tough path you find yourself on, but with the right support for yourself, learning to put yourself first and focusing on YOU, you[B] will [/B]get through this and get your life back. Sending you gentle hugs and wishes for peace............ [/QUOTE]
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