Our 21 year daughter has chosen not to live with us/we have chosen for her not to live with us because she smokes pot and drinks to the point of being an addict, we believe. She refuses to get a job or do anything adult-ish. The last time she was home we thought she had finally hit rock bottom but she refused to go to AA or any kind of rehabilitation program. She ended up leaving the house and going to a friend’s and getting drunk and high. This is the week of her 21st birthday. We are trying to maintain contact to let her know we still love her and hope that her choices will improve. She is going to come over next weekend to a barbecue at our house and I’m trying to figure out what birthday gift to get her. I’m finding it very difficult to figure out what to give my homeless daughter that won’t be enabling to her, will fit a homeless person’s lifestyle, and will still say I love her. Any suggestions would be appreciated.