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Borderline (Borderline (Borderline (Borderline (BPD)))) son is suicidal
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<blockquote data-quote="Waitingforamiracle" data-source="post: 762533" data-attributes="member: 25449"><p>Hi, finally managed to log back in, sorry for absence!!</p><p>First of all, please re-read Busy's advice above. It, sadly is the truth and I have learned this over the past four years.</p><p>If you know my posts you will know you could be me. My son had us all running after him, calling police, crisis team, you name it. He has been threatening suicide since 2018 and acting 'hopeless' since he was 18 (he will soon be 26). First he would stand beside a busy road outside our house. Then he allowed me to see his Google searches of suicide methods. Then he ordered a gas canister and face mask (the mask I intercepted and hid, without his knowledge). The crisis team said he was not depressed. (I do not say your son is the same as mine, nor am I certain that my son will not commit suicide at some point.) The difference is, I have detached myself from his actions. I have accepted that it is his choice and I can do NOTHING to stop him. I got the police to escort him away after a huge argument and he left home for a year, returning because of the pandemic. then it all started again, he would make rope nooses and steal medications to threaten to take. I got the police to escort him out a second time, (he was also being very abusive and threatening.) Two years on, we are in tentative contact and he says he has got some therapy which is helping. I am getting on with my life. I have decided that some young men (and women, but it seems to be mostly men) want to play games, and they KNOW we are not as hard hearted as them. It is us that are the victims of this behaviour. Please be good to yourself and take the focus off your son. I know it is hard. I have a friend who has a similar son who is now 30 and her answer is to keep him by her at the cost of her other son and her husband. They just have to put up with it but they are suffering terribly. I'm trying the other tack, and hoping with support 'at a distance' my son will learn to be independent. Be supportive of your son, help him all you can, but I would advise against giving him a free ride of any kind. It's not good for their development as independent human beings. Just my experience. You need a big hug, you poor hurting Mom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Waitingforamiracle, post: 762533, member: 25449"] Hi, finally managed to log back in, sorry for absence!! First of all, please re-read Busy's advice above. It, sadly is the truth and I have learned this over the past four years. If you know my posts you will know you could be me. My son had us all running after him, calling police, crisis team, you name it. He has been threatening suicide since 2018 and acting 'hopeless' since he was 18 (he will soon be 26). First he would stand beside a busy road outside our house. Then he allowed me to see his Google searches of suicide methods. Then he ordered a gas canister and face mask (the mask I intercepted and hid, without his knowledge). The crisis team said he was not depressed. (I do not say your son is the same as mine, nor am I certain that my son will not commit suicide at some point.) The difference is, I have detached myself from his actions. I have accepted that it is his choice and I can do NOTHING to stop him. I got the police to escort him away after a huge argument and he left home for a year, returning because of the pandemic. then it all started again, he would make rope nooses and steal medications to threaten to take. I got the police to escort him out a second time, (he was also being very abusive and threatening.) Two years on, we are in tentative contact and he says he has got some therapy which is helping. I am getting on with my life. I have decided that some young men (and women, but it seems to be mostly men) want to play games, and they KNOW we are not as hard hearted as them. It is us that are the victims of this behaviour. Please be good to yourself and take the focus off your son. I know it is hard. I have a friend who has a similar son who is now 30 and her answer is to keep him by her at the cost of her other son and her husband. They just have to put up with it but they are suffering terribly. I'm trying the other tack, and hoping with support 'at a distance' my son will learn to be independent. Be supportive of your son, help him all you can, but I would advise against giving him a free ride of any kind. It's not good for their development as independent human beings. Just my experience. You need a big hug, you poor hurting Mom. [/QUOTE]
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