Hi all - I'm not really sure what I'm doing so I hope this get's to the "right" place! I am struggling beyond belief at the moment and have no idea what to do. Without going into too much detail, my son has been smoking pot on and off for 5 years or so (he's 20 now). I had kicked him out of the house 1 1/2 years ago because I had just HAD it and he was out for almost a year. Last September he said "ok mom, I'm ready to live by your rules and come back home". Rules being: no more lies, no drugs at all. He's the sweetest, kindest young man in the world with a heart of gold - very sensitive, caring and loving BUT he comes from a family with addiction problems and he's clearly "got the gene". He's also gotten back together with a girlfriend who is nothing but trouble and also does pot (and Xanax, I've recently learned) so my son is right back into his old habits. I'm in SUCH a quandary because kicking him out for a year did him no good so I'm hesitant to go that route but letting him live with me and seeing him high is not something I can tolerate or bear to see. In addition, he is driving high, over and over. The car is in his dads name so we "do" have some control in that his dad could take it away from him but he DOES work and is very responsible in that regard so we'd certainly like to keep THAT going...! He was going to college but has since dropped out (temporarily, or so he says...) so work and this #$@% girlfriend are pretty much his life. He has anxiety (social anxiety pretty bad...) and is depressed and we have been trying forever to get him to see a counselor but he keeps making excuses, etc. He came home high again last night after driving and we talked (not that he'll remember...) and I've given up on the threats, the being angry, the being PISSED OFF at him because that doesn't resolve anything. I just told him "honey, we can't help you until and unless you're ready to quit" because he's constantly telling us he hates doing it, he WANTS to quit but he's weak and as soon as the cravings hit, he gives in. I took his keys away last night (again, not that he'll remember...) but I'm just not sure what to DO, especially regarding the car and the driving. My thought is to just let him use the car to and from work but that makes me into a policeman, constantly monitoring his scheduled (etc), and taking the keys away when he's not working, which I will do but is that the best thing TO do?!?!? Any input or thoughts or experience regarding this issue will be SO appreciated...