Do you think being definitive in your words adds anything to being definitive in your actions? I feel like my son believes his denials and rationalizations. I feel like it would be helpful to clarify that we are withdrawing support because we don't want to enable use. That there is a certain inevitability to the process, but that it is hindered if anyone, including us, isn't clear on what he is dealing with. But I don't know. The rehab professionals never actually identified my son as an addict -- and he never really self identified as one. I feel like they gave him the tools to recognize the need for recovery and to stay in recovery should he choose to pursue it. Is your life unmanageable? Do you use despite negative consequences, etc. Do you think calling a spade, a spade, not only helps to take us off the list of potential enablers but to help them frame the issue as addiction? Or I guess the question might be, do they already know.