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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742353" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I see it differently.</p><p></p><p><em>You GAVE everything for your kids. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Giving is a choice. Losing is not. You chose. It was not that you deserved to lose everything. It is that you were willing to put it all on the line for love. To me, that makes you a great hero, and that you won at life. You won the lottery. How many people get to live lives of such great courage and heart that they put it all on the line...for something as noble as great love.</p><p></p><p>You did not do this for a result. You did it because that is who you are. You defined yourself greatly, and you won. No matter what happens, you achieved greatness in spirit and in your soul. In the spiritual tradition I follow we live in order to heal our souls. And not only that we through our lives can choose to live in such a way that returns light to the Divine, through living well.</p><p></p><p>This is what you have done. Forget about all the stupid and trivial stuff of the ego, which is where I have hung out (unfortunately) in my life. My only real achievement was loving my son. Loving is an action verb and it is not contingent on the action or reciprocity of the object.</p><p></p><p>Do you regret your choices, really? Would you have been capable of choosing otherwise?</p><p></p><p>Don't think I don't fall into the same morass. I was feeling the same way, to an extent. I did cut off my son. And when I did I felt that my whole life did not have meaning. And when he did not thrive, I felt, too that it was all for naught. But now I am trying to own that I did not do it for a result. I loved. And I love. And that is the important thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742353, member: 18958"] I see it differently. [I]You GAVE everything for your kids. [/I] Giving is a choice. Losing is not. You chose. It was not that you deserved to lose everything. It is that you were willing to put it all on the line for love. To me, that makes you a great hero, and that you won at life. You won the lottery. How many people get to live lives of such great courage and heart that they put it all on the line...for something as noble as great love. You did not do this for a result. You did it because that is who you are. You defined yourself greatly, and you won. No matter what happens, you achieved greatness in spirit and in your soul. In the spiritual tradition I follow we live in order to heal our souls. And not only that we through our lives can choose to live in such a way that returns light to the Divine, through living well. This is what you have done. Forget about all the stupid and trivial stuff of the ego, which is where I have hung out (unfortunately) in my life. My only real achievement was loving my son. Loving is an action verb and it is not contingent on the action or reciprocity of the object. Do you regret your choices, really? Would you have been capable of choosing otherwise? Don't think I don't fall into the same morass. I was feeling the same way, to an extent. I did cut off my son. And when I did I felt that my whole life did not have meaning. And when he did not thrive, I felt, too that it was all for naught. But now I am trying to own that I did not do it for a result. I loved. And I love. And that is the important thing. [/QUOTE]
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