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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 707433" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Precepra, if you can truly forget even if you have done everything...im happy for you. It is not possible for me to fotget any of my children, even one who has been no contact for ten years. Have I moved on? YES. Do i cry about it? No, not anymore. I have a good life and other wonderful kids and a great husband. And the best is yet to come.</p><p>But I will never ever forget him like he was never beloved by me. I dont think it is easy for most especially those still engaged in their adult kids to move on because you did your best. I dont know if you have kids because you dont mention kids. But the parent/child bond is very powerful. In time moving on happens and, yes, it does no good to ruin your life if they refuse help. Or if we also dont get professional help to teach us how to best cope.</p><p></p><p>But it is a grieving process. It comes slowly, not quickly. And most parents always wonder "is there more I could have done?"</p><p></p><p>I think it is smart to get intensive therapy to learn how to cope and move on. I do not think it is fast or easy, no matter how hard we tried to help them or how horrible they behave(d). It is doable, but time consuming.</p><p></p><p>I salute all the loving hearts on this site and I get it. I think some cant and may never move on and that makes me sad. But i get that too, although I feel blessed I had enough inside of me and enough other blessings not to give up on life. I did get a lot of therapy. Saved me after son left us and now I am at a wonderful place. It took time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 707433, member: 1550"] Precepra, if you can truly forget even if you have done everything...im happy for you. It is not possible for me to fotget any of my children, even one who has been no contact for ten years. Have I moved on? YES. Do i cry about it? No, not anymore. I have a good life and other wonderful kids and a great husband. And the best is yet to come. But I will never ever forget him like he was never beloved by me. I dont think it is easy for most especially those still engaged in their adult kids to move on because you did your best. I dont know if you have kids because you dont mention kids. But the parent/child bond is very powerful. In time moving on happens and, yes, it does no good to ruin your life if they refuse help. Or if we also dont get professional help to teach us how to best cope. But it is a grieving process. It comes slowly, not quickly. And most parents always wonder "is there more I could have done?" I think it is smart to get intensive therapy to learn how to cope and move on. I do not think it is fast or easy, no matter how hard we tried to help them or how horrible they behave(d). It is doable, but time consuming. I salute all the loving hearts on this site and I get it. I think some cant and may never move on and that makes me sad. But i get that too, although I feel blessed I had enough inside of me and enough other blessings not to give up on life. I did get a lot of therapy. Saved me after son left us and now I am at a wonderful place. It took time. [/QUOTE]
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