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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 707454" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sammi, I am sorry for all you are going through. I know how hard it is. It is so hard when everyone tells you that there is no hope and no help. I know when my son was at his worst and I knew that for the sake of my other children, for the safety of all of us, my oldest needed inpatient treatment but I couldn't find it anywhere. I ended up taking a notebook and starting with calling a pastor I knew from a local church. I asked him if he knew of any church programs or local resources that might be able to help us. I asked if he knew of anyone who might know of any resources that might help us. I told him a short version of what we were going through. I then called the phone numbers he gave me and told them the story and asked them if they knew of any resources or programs. </p><p></p><p>I filled that notebook in two days. i made over 100 phone calls. I told the awful story of what we were going through with a child who kept trying to kill his little sister and I for no apparent reason, and how hard it was because he really needed HELP while he was still a child. I cried to a LOT of people. I BEGGED. I let my pride go because at that point, my pride wasn't going to help my son and it didn't matter to me nearly as much as my son did.</p><p></p><p>I got information on several programs, two of which my son was eligible for and one was a good fit. You have to just keep pestering people. If the police won't help when a young child is putting herself in danger, call your local chief of police and ask why the police won't do their jobs? Learn to be the squeaky wheel who keeps on them until they do something. If you accept NO, then nothing is going to happen. If you keep asking, keep going over their heads asking why they won't do what is supposed to happen, sooner or later someone is going to do something to get you to shut up. </p><p></p><p>You can also call child protective services and ask them to help you protect your child from herself. I don't know if you live in a large or small town, but most areas have a sex crimes unit. If your daughter is sending images of herself over the internet, that may be a crime. You may be able to force her to get help that way. At least get her a probation officer to help monitor her and give her rules as generally it is against the law to post photos of minors on the internet. It is even against the law to post them if you are the minor in the photos. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter needs help. Her behavior may be showing you that she is bipolar. One symptom of bipolar is hypersexuality, or acting out in a very very sexual way. While it may seem 'mean' or somehow 'wrong' to turn her in to the police when she needs help and treatment instead of jail time, sadly that may be the only way to push her into getting help. Generally children are not treated harshly and are given help and services are given to the family. It is more a way to help get services put into place.</p><p></p><p>These are just ideas, things that have worked for me or that I think might work for you. Use what you think will help and discard the rest.</p><p></p><p>I am truly sorry that it is so hard to raise your daughter when she will not follow even the most basic of rules. I do understand how difficult it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 707454, member: 1233"] Sammi, I am sorry for all you are going through. I know how hard it is. It is so hard when everyone tells you that there is no hope and no help. I know when my son was at his worst and I knew that for the sake of my other children, for the safety of all of us, my oldest needed inpatient treatment but I couldn't find it anywhere. I ended up taking a notebook and starting with calling a pastor I knew from a local church. I asked him if he knew of any church programs or local resources that might be able to help us. I asked if he knew of anyone who might know of any resources that might help us. I told him a short version of what we were going through. I then called the phone numbers he gave me and told them the story and asked them if they knew of any resources or programs. I filled that notebook in two days. i made over 100 phone calls. I told the awful story of what we were going through with a child who kept trying to kill his little sister and I for no apparent reason, and how hard it was because he really needed HELP while he was still a child. I cried to a LOT of people. I BEGGED. I let my pride go because at that point, my pride wasn't going to help my son and it didn't matter to me nearly as much as my son did. I got information on several programs, two of which my son was eligible for and one was a good fit. You have to just keep pestering people. If the police won't help when a young child is putting herself in danger, call your local chief of police and ask why the police won't do their jobs? Learn to be the squeaky wheel who keeps on them until they do something. If you accept NO, then nothing is going to happen. If you keep asking, keep going over their heads asking why they won't do what is supposed to happen, sooner or later someone is going to do something to get you to shut up. You can also call child protective services and ask them to help you protect your child from herself. I don't know if you live in a large or small town, but most areas have a sex crimes unit. If your daughter is sending images of herself over the internet, that may be a crime. You may be able to force her to get help that way. At least get her a probation officer to help monitor her and give her rules as generally it is against the law to post photos of minors on the internet. It is even against the law to post them if you are the minor in the photos. Your daughter needs help. Her behavior may be showing you that she is bipolar. One symptom of bipolar is hypersexuality, or acting out in a very very sexual way. While it may seem 'mean' or somehow 'wrong' to turn her in to the police when she needs help and treatment instead of jail time, sadly that may be the only way to push her into getting help. Generally children are not treated harshly and are given help and services are given to the family. It is more a way to help get services put into place. These are just ideas, things that have worked for me or that I think might work for you. Use what you think will help and discard the rest. I am truly sorry that it is so hard to raise your daughter when she will not follow even the most basic of rules. I do understand how difficult it is. [/QUOTE]
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