The meaning of cathargic 'providing psychological relief through the open expression of strong emotions. Causing catharsis. To cleanse or purge. That is what I have been doing today. I have been going through family photo albums. I am scanning photos and either throwing away or making an album for my daughter. I am letting go of grief and agony as I look at these pictures of her and remind myself that I have found a new detached freedom in the last few months. It has been a long, hard process but I can feel the shift in my thinking and it is settling into my soul. Yesterday when I read Tanya M's post about documents it got me to think about getting rid of the rest of my daughters pictures, especially the pictures of her bad times, I am letting go. Also Tanya, I hear you loud and clear about not getting involved in your son's business with the courts, I know it takes strength and you mentioned it did not help him in his future. This project that I am working on is hard and healing at the same time. I take a look at my daughters face in the pictures and I am releasing the hurt that comes with that face, not just the hurt but the years of her abuse and belligerence. I see no fun future with her and her boyfriend. My husband will have absolutely NOTHING to do with him and I avoid him as much as possible. This is NOT the future I had envisioned. I envisioned all of us going on cruises and having a great time as we all get older. God in heaven knows how much I have tried to make things work. All my energy went into finding balance with my family, with our daughter, every ounce I have went into trying to make it work. Somethings just don't work like I want it to and I have to stand back and be ok with it.