Contact with my 24 yr old son is just a text here or there. Hadn't spoken to him in a month.. Still in sober living so that is a positive! So this past week he was in a minor accident last week and left me know. He went to the urgent care to get checked and didn't have anything broken or cut. Just bruised and a sprain. I did call him after it happened and it was nice hearing his voice. Sounded okay but it was most likely the adrenaline. So, I sent a few texts that evening and got very short replies and then no replies. Didn't hear from him at all the following day until later in the evening I received a picture so I sent a text back asking about his foot... No reply... Didn't receive another text until 24 hours later stating that his ribs hurt.. Coincidentally it was 1/2 hour before IOP was to start so I didn't answer him. I felt like it was his way of getting out of going to IOP since he doesn't like it and was waiting for me to say go get rechecked again but I didn't reply. I did send an email the following morning about if he feels worse he should go back to the urgent care, I also added that he was fortunate because it could have been a lot worse, etc. No reply. Sent him a text the following day asking how he was ... No reply... so I have not heard from him since he said his ribs hurt. I am thinking he is upset because I didn't reply immediately about his ribs hurting but he ignored me for 24 hours when I asked about his foot... I asked the family counselor about this distant strained relationship, etc. She said that addiction steals the frontal cortex of the brain and that the addict doesn't have empathy, can't think of anything but himself, etc. Since my son is in very early recovery he will have ups and downs... I understand that. Just don't know what I did. I guess I should have replied when he said his ribs hurt but he never seems to care when he doesn't reply to me. So, I feel like this awful mother now. Should I reach out again and ask how he is? Like I mentioned, I sent an email and a text on Thursday and received no reply. Sadly, I don't even want to attempt to call. Our relationship is so strained that I have not a clue what to even talk about. He never answers his dads texts ever. It really hurts his dad/my husband.