as some of you may know AS who has refused to follow through with rehab has been given 14 days to leave the house. We have re keyed the locks and he is only allowed in when we are home and not to have anyone in the house. He broke his cell phone and asked me to fix it. I told him I needed the pass code to ensure it was operating properly before I could pay and bring it home. Also I told him I was not about to pay for it he had Birthday money and that was what it was used for. Truth was I didn't need the code. I read enough texts to understand the gravity of the situation. He is still using and also still dealing and not just pot. Molly, Coke, oxy, percs, and pot. Also discovered our neighbours older son (28-30) is giving him free pot and selling him Coke. Too vague for the police to act but we will be having a conversation with his parents. He is a failure to launch live at home son who is in probation for a DUI. A real ! Took phone put it in the safe told him I left it at the store. I told him why. Phone is in my name not going to be used to buy and sell drugs period. He will never get another phone from us ever. So much for his rehab counselor saying it wasn't enabling him to provide him with a phone for comunication. He has until the 26th to leave. He rantes that he just got a job at Swiss Chalet. Big deal he has never held down a job for more than 3 months. Don't need a phone to have a job. Offered him an old phone to use on imesanger on WiFi if communication was important to him for job, bail and court. He refused it. I wish I could put him out right now. I am having trouble focusing on the love part of detachment. The disrespectful things he said about us were pretty awful. I know that is the disease talking. My heart just doesn't know it yet. His birthday is on the 20th and he will be a full adult 18 years old. So now we can make him leave no games need to be played. I will not have him home until he has been through a long term rehabilitation program. It takes baby steps to detach an it is still breaking my heart but I have the strength to follow through on this. I wish it were tomorrow that he was leaving. What's terrible thing to wish for. Heart is breaking, tears are flowing. I see there is a grip on him of drugs and manipulation, no recognition or regret, not ready for a change. Hard stuff. Impossible stuff at times.